We have been together for 3 years. we now have a 7 month old baby girl.I work days and he works nights because we cant afford a baby sitter! It has been my dream to marry! and now we finally decided on a date to work up to! Jan 5 2008!
I want something romantic, and something we can afford. we probably wont have any more then 30-50 people.
My dad sugested haveing everyone bring something to share kinda like a pot luck. Then we can just get something big like chicken or pasta as the "big dinner part" and every one bring their own drinks.
is that kinda shady or a bad ideia?
2007-03-03 12:18:05 · 13 answers · asked by jiggamaboo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I beg to differ but here in the south we have long been having "potluck" receptions! It's just the way we are raised down here to naturally take something when we go to someone's house for a party or meal! But like the poster above stated, make a menu and have folks tell you what they'll bring so you can make sure you have a more balanced meal.
Network! Sit down and think of who you know and what hidden talents your friends and family possess and don't be bashful about asking them to help with your wedding! Most folks are happy to help out and are just waiting to be asked. Do you know someone who makes cakes? Does a friend have a photography hobby? Maybe someone you know is a minister and can perform the ceremony for free? It's all in who you know and who you ask alot of times if you just give it a little thought!
Dollar stores have a wide selection of papergoods to use for the meals and for decorating, they also have silks to do bouquets, corsages and boutineers with too. Do a search online for how to do it yourself bouquets and such, there are literally hundreds of sites with some easy instructions and pics to follow!
Good luck and best wishes for a beautiful wedding!!!
2007-03-03 16:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 'pot luck' reception will be just fine, but you also have to organize it as well. You can't just say "bring what you want"; otherwise you may end up with 15 pots of baked beans, no potato salad & nothing to drink but Budweiser.
Draw up a menu. You're supplying the meat. Good, but remember those that might be vegetarian or on a restricted diet.
Then let the different people bring whatever they want in a category they choose. No sense Auntie having to bring a jello salad when her candied yams are to die for.
Congratulations!
Ps. There is a book called How to cater your own wedding by Michael Flowers. See if your library has a copy or can get it. GOOD book.
2007-03-03 13:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A small intimate wedding at home can be really romantic and inexpensive. My husband and I married Jan. 1 at home. The house was already decorated for the holidays and made a beautiful backdrop. A pot luck dinner/reception is a nice idea and I am sure your friends and family will enjoy participating in making your day special in this way. Have someone take some digital photos (either before the wedding or at the wedding) and pick one you like, print it, purchase a pretty inexpensive mat at a hobby store and have guests sign the mat instead of a guest book. There are tons of simple inexpensive ways to make your wedding day special and beautiful. The main thing is to make sure it is meaningful to you and your fiance.
2007-03-03 12:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Starshine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pot luck is a great idea, I think that your guests would love to help with your special day, since they will probably only be your closest friends and family.
Don't worry about stuff that people will forget like flowers or favors, people will forget all about that stuff.
Get disposable cameras and have people take pictures of you, that way everyone gets to be a photographer and you get a variety of photos.
Buy cake and champagne or just punch.
Make your own insitations.
Go somewhere public so you don't have to pay a fee, like the beach if its warm enough!
I'm sure you could task some people to do like one item each like the salad, bread, cheese fruit and pasta and you guys could do the meats.
Wear a nice dress and have your bridesmaids pick out a nice dress. Have them hold a long stemmed rose. Keep it simple, you don't need to break the bank to have a memorable special day.
Be creative. Buy some bridal magazines, they have great classifieds on the back.
OR...VEGAS!!
Good luck, congratulations!!
2007-03-03 12:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Lovin life. you are obviously gettting married for love and you do not need a big wedding or reception to show people that. As long as everyone you love is there who cares what presents you get or where it's at. I had a big wedding and as lovely as it was all I did was stress for a year making sure everything went okay and afterwards people don't remember the things that you worried about for 2 months, they remember the atmosphere, convresation and that the bride and groom looked happy. And if they don't think that, who cares! Have a fantastic time and can I come? x
2007-03-03 12:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by mrsallport 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well congrats first of all.well when i got married i had a small wedding.we got married in a barn.we had a friend that was a noteriy an i did all the food my self.just do finger foods.foods that people can just pick at have like a meat tray,cheese,ect. easy foods.an for the beverage's i bought a keg of beer an any one who wanted the harder stuff tell them to bring there own.you can have a good time by just staying very basic an remember the real party starts later when your alone anyway.
2007-03-03 12:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by todd m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on line and look at elopement packages in your area. where I live there are several with beautiful settings and very good prices which includes the dinner,photographer,invitations,minister etc. I'm sure you will find something you can afford and have it classy too. It is considered tacky to have the guest bring their own drink. you can also consider serving just cake and punch and do away with the whole dinner thing.
2007-03-03 15:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by crazykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tacky to ask people to bring food to a wedding reception. Instead just serve wedding cake and punch. You don't have to do a big wedding or reception. The important thing is that you are getting married.
Good luck!
2007-03-03 12:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you do your wedding at an "off time," you won't be expected to feed your guests a meal. you could do the ceremony at like 1 pm, and then do snacks for the reception, which you could make/provide yourselves (cheese and crackers, fruit salad, mini sandwiches, etc.). and an afternoon wedding also means not paying for a bar...that saves A LOT of money!
2007-03-03 12:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by moondancer629 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good idea. Makes everyone feel included, and that way people that don't like your 'big dinner part' will have other options.
2007-03-03 12:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋