Is it ok to want to see other people?

Question

I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and three months, we love each other very much. I'm 21 and she's 20. We've talked about marriage a lot the past 5 or 6 months. It seemed like an awesome idea and I couldn't picture myself with anyone else. But the more I think about it, the more I think we're not the best for each other. I realize certain things that are different between us, such as her level of faith versus mine, her views about certain things, and just how we go about arguing seems to be not so healthy. Lately i've been wanting to just have fun and see other girls. This isn't a question, I just need advice...preferably from someone my age or older. So no teenagers, sorry.

Answer 1

I could give you heaps of advice about respecting a persons point of view...that no two people become "one" when they get married. It is very healthy to have differing points of view. The problem lies when one or the other person thinks they are right exclusively. If you are having doubts....no matter what they are....dont get married because if there are things about your girlfriend you dont like now, then its not going to get miraculously better just by getting married and probably will get worse. Follow your gut instinct....maybe if you see other people you will realise you do love her....absence makes the heart grow fonder in some cases. In other cases it shows you that you werent really compatible and are glad you didnt go ahead with marriage.

Marriage is a huge commitment, and if you do love her, then these issues you talk about need to be resolved before you walk down the isle. If you think these issues cannot be resolved, then please, do not get married. She may be hurt, but a lot less hurt now than when you decide after marriage, and maybe a couple of kids later that you made a mistake.

You are still only reasonably young...young enough to go out and experience life and other people. If you are thinking like this, then you are not ready for marriage, but that doesnt mean to say you wont in the next 12 months....like I said when you do experience other women, you may realise that what you had was worth hanging onto. Only in the doing will you really know what is right for you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You should not even be considering a serious relationship at your age. Marriages at your age mostly end with a divorce. The differences you relate as reasons to end the relationship are very valid. You will be doing yourself and her a huge favor by ending this relationship and moving on to date other people. I hope you won't be so quick to become serious again until you are at least five years older than you are at present.

Answer 3

That's why they call it dating.

You can be dating, 3, 4, 5, people at a time as long as you let the other know that's your intention.

Don't settle for something you feel is not right.

Put your profile on YoBling to meet more people in your local area.
http://yobling.com

Just know, everyone has problems. from your teachers, parents, pastors, to the seemingly happy people next door. It's never perfect. But you shouldn't settle if it's not in your heart.

Answer 4

i'm in the same boat as you are right now i notice things are different about my boyfriend than the used to be. i talked to my mom about it she told me we need a little time apart. maybe take a break for a week or so to figure things out. maybe it will help you figure some things out.
ps i'm the same age as you.

Answer 5

it is okay to c other people but maybe u should try to work on ur relationship with ur gf for a little while and see where that takes u or just take a break and c if seeing other people is right gud luck

Answer 6

The moment you think of straying is the moment you need help. You guys need to talk it out with eachother.