Guys, what would you do?

Question

This is a hypothetical situation, but I need honest answers from guys or whoever has a thought.
Suppose you found out that a certain girl that you were really close friends with, liked you in a romantic way. Now, you've known this girl for a while, more than 5 years. And for some reason or another, you don't see her in that way, and just want to continue being friends. You would never want to hurt her. But one day, while you two are talking, she tells you how she feels about you, and that she's liked you as more than a friend for about a year now. Then after telling you how she feels, she asks you out. What would you do? Would you go out with her, just because you don't want to hurt her, & hope u develop feelings 4 her? Would u let her know that u didn't feel the same about her, but didn't want anything 2 happen 2 ur friendship. Would there be any way of handling this situation without hurting her feelings? If this predicament came up in ur life, what would u do?

By the way: I'm the girl in this situation, trying to figure out all the scenarios that could play out or happen, if I take this chance...and ask him out...

Answer 1

I would say we should take time to think about this. I would wait and see how I feel and a week later I would tell her honestly how I feel.

Answer 2

well, id tell her i dont have feelings for her but i would want to be friends still. i reckon i'd just talk to her about it and get it sorted out. but i wouldnt go out with her because that would mean lying to myself and her. and no there is no way of handling this situation without hurting her feelings. if this is a true friendship, then honesty would be valued, and thats what i would put first.

Answer 3

It's a tough question. But if I honestly did not like her in a romantic way and could not see myself in that type of relationship with her, then I would tell her that. If it hurts her, then I would be sorry but I have to be honest. I wouldn't lead her on or try to convince myself that I could fall for her in the future, that would hurt her worse than my honesty.

Answer 4

You have to be honest. If she has been your friend for five years, then it's a close friendship.
There is no sense in stringing her along, hoping that your feeling might change
We can't change emotions easily. we feel, what we feel, and just because she changed hers, doesnt' mean that your feelings will change.
So it boils down to this, she either accepts the status quo., and remain friends, or you go your seperate ways.
It's not easy but it would be more hurtful to her, any other way.

Answer 5

I've been in this situation a few times (only as a guy who asked out the girl) and it's never turned out good. Let's just say I wouldn't ever do it again.

Answer 6

I will go out with her. On that day, I will tell her how I feel and how I want to continue our friendship. If she is ok what I said, then its happening ending. If she is sad, I should give her a hug and say " you are always my closet one, "

Answer 7

So for some reason, I just want to be friends and she asks me out right? Sure I'll give her a chance and maybe we might have something.

Answer 8

Actually your friend is disgusting... but I do understand you.. It's up to you.. What if you feel the same feeling with her? why not go out with her... but if not, just be honest with her also. tell her that you're not comfortable with her anymore for what she confessed with you the real her.. stay away of her.. It's normal for a person to be frustrated in her/his love life... lesbians are dangerous in the name of love..

Answer 9

Is this a girl - girl friendship or a guy-girl friendship? Honesty is always the best policy in my opinion.

Answer 10

i would explain to my friend that i wouldn't want to mess up the friendship that we have and i would rather remain friends. but sometimes, there are some situations where it can work out.