Hi everyone. Recently I've been getting a lot of comments from co-workers, old friends, and even family that are all along the lines of "go socialize" or "do you have any friends?" or "why don't you wanna go out with us?"
I am a very nice personalbe person. However, I am almost afraid of being social. Growing up my parents were very strict about going to friend's houses, going out to the mall with friends, dances, parties, etc. My father often slapped me/yelled at me for socializing too much. That fear has stayed with me and even now as a 23 y.o. I am very reluctant to socialize.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to come off as a loner, but people already treat me differently and its very embarassing. Does anyone have any advice?
2007-03-03 12:12:56 · 7 answers · asked by pizzapie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Socializing is overratted. The best way to socialize is not to do so. Make them come to you, because the more of an enigma you are to them the more they will do the things YOU want to do, if they don't want to, then to hell with them. Having fun on your own is much more important than playing their sick bar-hopping games or going to dismul dances. Those are the worst things to do, for they isolate you more than socialize you, because you can still be alone in a crowded room.
Find things you want to do, and don't worry about what everyone else expects of you. Friends will come and go, but you will always be with you.
2007-03-03 12:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure by now that your old friends and co-workers understand the way you are... go out with them... just keep it low key. you can go and just hang out... you don't have to be the life of the party. you can go and just laugh with everyone and IF you want to add to conversation ... do it! but if not... your people will probably understand that it may take you a while to become talkative and sociable... my advice is just to hang with people who know your situation and become comfortable around them in social settings... then after a while you may feel comfortable venturing out and meeting new ppl! don't rush it though... just do what's comfortable. :)
2007-03-03 20:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by vneck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a better feeling about yourself. Your dad was a jerk in this matter, you should find a very social friend and become close and in no time you will see how easy it becomes:)
Good luck
2007-03-03 20:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i feel the same way, if you wanna talk about this feel free to instant message me. I know exactly how it feels being anti social. It's not an easy life.
2007-03-03 20:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out once a month or arrange lunch with friends that way your going out but not too much and maybe you will start to enjoy it. enjoy life ul regret it when your older if you dont
2007-03-03 20:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep I have advice for you. Quit blaming your father for something that is your own responsibility. Next time someone asks you to do something, get off your butt and go do it.
2007-03-03 20:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
go socialize
2007-03-03 20:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by manfromblueriver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋