Me n my bf jsut split up after 15 months. about 4 months into the realationship my m8 seen him gettin into a taxi wiv another girl but he came straight home to me i know cos she fonedd sayin he had just got in the taxi n he walked in the door. then he was txtin another girl in my bed when i was at work i found out n he said it was a girl from work until i went on at him n he said it was a girl he met wen we had split up (we were 2getha a year then split up for a year then back 2getha) now everytime he goes out i get really jealous and accuse him of cheating and i know he lies to me ive caught him loads of times. but he went out last friday n turned off his fone and said he was at his uncles bday party until i found out he wasnt he was out with m8s but then on tue he got a txt from a girl sayin she met him on fri now he is sayin it was his m8 as a wind up but when i confronted him 2nite n asked to see his fone he got all defensive and broke up with me what do i do?! help please?
2007-03-03 11:45:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you actually care about this guy, please ignore all other advice people. Some of this might hurt your ego, so read without pride.
You have a serious problem with trust. Maybe this guy is showing things that make you think he doesn't deserve your trust, but the thing is that until you learn to trust someone, you will ALWAYS be scared and ALWAYS be doing really weird/possessive/stupid things that will PUSH HIM AWAY.
On and off relationships are usually insane and OF COURSE, he will have a few "back-up girls" who he goes to when he is feeling crowded or if he just wants to chill. It is kind of YOUR fault, so you have to deal with it for a while. If you can chill, not invade privacy, not bring up any of that crap, then SLOWLY he will not need to go to other girls. He will SLOWLY hang out with mostly you.
Now you already made some big mistakes that may have already made him completely give up on you. Don't be surprised if he doesn't ever want to get back with you. BUT IF HE DOES, CALM DOWN AND DON'T SCREW IT UP!!
Good luck,
Franklin
2007-03-03 11:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that u love him and he put u in a postion that made trust no longer there that is what probably held u to together. And that is now gone and u want it back but when lies are involved it comes with pain and then there is another problem now because pain and love isnt suppose to be in the same home what it sounds like is that he has a new person in his life that may have his attention for the moment and he is enjoying it but if RESPECT was present he would not have to make up lies he needs to let everything to be known and not hide behind lies because they will lead him down a DEAD END ROAD he should know that telling the truth is much easier then any lie ever told it is hard to remember a lie
TRUST YOURSELF AND MAKE YOUR NEXT MOVE YOUR BEST MOVE
2007-03-03 20:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by DEFINE WHAT LUV IS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He's obviously got some deep commitment and honesty issues. Find someone that can be true to you and not tell a bunch of lies.
2007-03-03 19:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't trust this guy by the sounds of him.
It's obvious he's up to something.
I think you should personally end it.
It looks like you're not trusting him and I don't blame you since the fact that he lies to your face.
2007-03-03 19:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by MOVED! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is seeing other girls that he can actually have a conversation with. Your grammar gives me a headache. I dont't blame him for cheating on you.
2007-03-03 19:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by RJsGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM and move on.
2007-03-03 19:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by DRH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋