i want to have a baby,,,,,wat should i do?

Question

i want a baby,,,now and im only 18...is it normal...i mean im about to get marry in like next year but,,,is it time?

Answer 1

well im getting married myself. im 19 but will be 20 soon, but not before i get married. i would love to have a baby right after i get married to my husband. but i know we cant. we have to first build up our marriage and get ourselves situated before we can have a baby. plus he and i are both in college. he wants to graduate before we have a baby. think about your life. u may want a baby, but r u ready for one? do you have enough money, enough time, enough patience to handle a baby? they may look cute but behind all that cuteness is a powerful voice that just may keep you up all night. i think you should enjoy your time with your future husband. once you all have a baby, things will change. more time will be devoted to it then to each other. there is plenty of time for you to have a baby. u are young and no where close to menapause.

Answer 2

lol my first reaction is no
but tbh it all depends on a lot of factors like
first of all finacial can u afford to have a baby
are u 2 gonna be married for a long time or is it just a fling
are u prepared for all the hard ship (waking up in wee hours, changing stinking nappies)
giving up ur personal life(*pretty much no going out for at a year )
if u answered yes to all these then go ahead and have a baby but dnt have a baby cause ur frend had 1 etc.
all the best if u do have 1 :)

Answer 3

Sometimes I feel like that too. But when you really think about it. Its not the right time yet. Imagine all the things that will change if you have a baby right now. Do everything you gotta do first before thinking about having a huge responsibilities. Make sure you and your boyfriend have a decent job. And you guys are ready for a baby. When you do that then maybe you can start thinking about it.

Answer 4

you're 18 and getting married next year? well you have to answer yourself one question Are you ready for either one? Its normal to feel that you want a baby, but are you ready? are you done with school? and are you going to college to become somebody? my advice to you is ask youself these questions and think about do you really love this guy you are going to marry and is he ready to have kids? babies are a big responsiability and you lose you freedom if you decide to have one early. how does your parents feel about all this? these are things you need to consider. wait awhile after you are married, and see if you can finanially raise a baby. your 18, when the time is right you will know!!

Answer 5

aaawwww! that is sooo normal for girls. you know what that is? its hormones girl. get a hold of yourself. ok? that same baby feeling will come and go throughout your lifetime. you have to fight it though, ok? im sure you have other things you want to do with your life first. like get a good education so you can provide well for your child some day, in case its just you and no man. men do run when these things happen. if you think of you first and your education and your future even without a man, that would be the best thing to focus on right now. you want to be a strong, self sufficient, self confident woman before you are a mother. you want to be a great role model dont you, especially if you have a daughter one day. women need to teach their daughters that they should think of their futures and learning to love who they are and accomplishments and that men can come later when they are totally satisfied with themselves first. so, why dont you think about this. as one mother speaking to a future mother, wait and take care of you and your needs first, then maybe a guy later on and then, when you know he is the right one.......and those hormones work on you again.....go ahead and give motherhood a try, your baby will thank you for having such a smart mother.

Answer 6

trust me honey, don't have baby just yet. i'm sure you've heard what a responsibility it is, but trust me it is more then you want, especially so young. Actually don't even get married right now, go to college, get a degree, become financially independent, put some money in saving , have some fun while you"re young. Trust me, I know from experience, getting married now and or having a baby........in 10-15 years you'll wish you had waited and wish you had your young years back. I hope you'll take my advice and in 10-15 yrs say i am so glad I listened to that woman who wanted more but had to wait until her responsibilities were grown.

Answer 7

You should enjoy your being single first. Once you already have a baby, your time is no longer all for yourself. Develop yourself emotionally, pursue your career and reach for your dreams. So, when the proper time comes to have a baby, you're already mature enough to handle all the responsibilities that goes along with having children including the financial aspect. Take your time...

Answer 8

You want a baby when your 18? i mean are you sure? its possible but most people regret having babies for example when you go out with your friends your gonna have to take the baby along with you and cant have fun like you use to. so think about it before you do anything.

Answer 9

you are so young and the world isn't gonna stop bc you plan to get married...wait at least a year after being married to have a baby so you can enjoy the young newly married moments of unplanned intimatcy. then reconsider the baby issue

Answer 10

Have a baby in this age is good because you can enjoy more time with your kit and when they grow up they may able to help you more.But girl if you want to have baby now you make sure that you are financially ok.GOOD LUCK.