But my friends, will she tell me not to hang with them? It's not their fault, I've been doing it scince before I met them, I just ticked off my cat so she would scratch me so I could blame her for the scratches. But I only did it so I could have my wrists cut up. Now I have sharp things in my room that I have utilized. my leg is scratched up. my arm is still bleeding a little. How do I tell her without her freaking out?
2007-03-03 11:26:21 · 10 answers · asked by NOT USING Y!A ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!! 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is very serious. What you are describing is called "Cutting". People who cut themselves do so because the physical pain they feel from cutting is more tolerable than the emotional pain tearing them apart inside. You need professional help. If there is another adult you trust tell them what is happening and ask them to go with you when you tell your mother. It is imperative that you tell your mother. If there isn't another adult you trust to go with you then this is what you do. Ask your mother to sit down with you because you have something very important you need to talk to her about. Be calm, but insistent. Let her know how much you love her and respect her and how much you need for her to listen to what you have to say. Ask her to promise not to get angry or upset or you won't tell her what your problem is. Once she agrees not to get upset, explain to her the emotional pain you are experiencing and tell her you need her help dealing with it. Only then should you show her your scars. Tell her you want to stop hurting yourself but you don't know how to do it by yourself. Then look at your mom and tell her you need her help. Hold her hand when you talk to her and look her directly in the eyes so she will know how important this is to you. I know how scary this seems. I know you think that she won't understand. And she probably won't at first, but if she loves you her only concern is going to be your well being. If she blames your friends, which she might do, just calmly look her in the eyes and tell her that your friends don't know that you cut yourself and that you started doing it before you met them. Then tell her this isn't about your friends it is about you and you need her help to get better. I don't know your mother so I can't predict how she will react, but, I know from personal experience how difficult this is for you. I was sure my mom would freak when I told her what I was doing to myself. She didn't freak, she cried. She pulled me into her arms and cried deep, heartwrenching sobs and told me she would always love me and she helped me get the professional help I needed.
I no longer cut myself and the person I was then is gone and buried. I was taught better ways to handle my feelings and with therapy, drugs, and my parents I'm a totally different person. Now, I'm totally off my medication and I'm not in the black hole anymore. Sharing this secret with my mom was the only thing that saved my life. I wish you health and happiness. Life does get better, I promise. You won't be a teenager forever.
2007-03-03 12:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by cherlindra2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time better than now for you to get help for this problem. The longer these sorts of behaviors persist the harder recovery is. It's scary to have to tell someone what you have been doing, scarier still to continue doing this to yourself. There are many paths available to help you recover. Together with your family you can explore the best options and find one that works for you. It's a long process, but self-mutilation is a highly addictive behavior that won't go away on it's own and will only get worse with time. Good luck to you.
2007-03-03 13:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by discordiaxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask MOM to help you get help.... Cutting is way to release inner pain/stress and frustration. You need professional help and medication to help you get through this. Ask Mom to call a Mental Health Counselor or at least your Guidance Counselor at school to get you the right kind of help you need. She will freak but she loves you and will calm down and realize how serious a problem you have. You could even show her the Q/A here and help her to see you're reaching out....
2007-03-03 11:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by double_klicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you need to tell her. Prepare her that you have to ask her something and tell her not to freak out. This will let her know it is something big and that she needs to pay attention and get her to put her feelings in check for a second long enough to not react as freakishly as she may have. Many people that cut honestly believe that it feels "good". At the time it may but one of these days when you are through your depression, you will have scars for life to live with. Try to find another outlet to cope with your feelings.
2007-03-03 11:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think she is going to freak out no matter what way you tell her. I think you should get her help, and get it now. She will help you and you'll feel a lot better once you tell her. She's your mom and later she'll be glad you came to her for help. Your gonna have even more problems in life so get used to asking your parents for help. Good luck.
2007-03-03 11:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Zenovia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
i'm really glad that you have discovered for yourself that cutting is not a solution to anything and wanting help.
just go to your mom and tell her you need her and some help and her understanding, then tell her what you have been doing. and that you need help in stopping it, professional help. if she should bring your friends into it, just tell her they have nothing to do with this, that is just something in you. i doubt your mom will freak but she may be scared..for you. tell and show her, you won't regret it. i'm sure she will jump into action to get you the help and treatment that you need. do it now, tonight. good luck! God Bless!
2007-03-03 11:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra Dee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, dont be surprised if she gets scared. She may or may not understand. But if she does get scared, stay calm. Try not to get angry at her for not understanding. If and when you do decide to tell her, just know that what you are doing is a very brave and admirable thing to do. I used to be a cutter...never told my mom or dad. I wish I had. Are you and your mom close?
2007-03-03 11:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Gina W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell her, she's your mom she will want to help you through this and will get you help you need to over come whatever is causing the problem. Just tell her that you need to talk to her that you need some help and go from there..show her what you have been doing and let her help you
2007-03-03 11:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by mystic_whispers_of_my_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i no how your feeling , im a teen with depression/ anxiety.. i had a row with my dad a few weeks ago and trying to make my self feel better, i decided to cut my arms and sure enough it felt better at the time. but a few days later my mom seen one of the cuts and she got mad with me but i promised never to do it again. but since the day ive really wanted to show her the rest of my arm, but im to scared to incase shel flip out. if your really feeling on the edge you should talk to your mom though, sit her down and explain how your feeling, .. hope you feel better soon..
2007-03-04 02:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by mable1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, tell her now. She make freak out but this is a dangerous secret you have been keeping and you need her help
2007-03-03 11:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋