I have to do time in county jail, about 3 months! I'm trying to spend as much time with her as I can, but is it enough?
2007-03-03 11:01:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
3 months isn't that long of a time. It seems like it is but time will fly. If she is surrounded by your belongings, still "smells" you with your perfume and clothing, has pictures to see you, talks on the phone and can hear your voice, and gets to talk about you all the time then she won't forget you.
If you don't get to see her during those times she might be a little shy at first when you get out. She'll be a little angry for having left her. Children that young can't understand why you left or how long you will be gone.
Luckily she is still youngest enough that she'll adapt back to her regular routine quickly. It will probably be just like you hadn't left. Kids are amazingly resislient.
I am sorry to hear about your troubles. You are lucky that she is young enough to not know what is going on.
Take Care,
SD
2007-03-03 13:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was 16 months when he first met his father who was incarcerated at the time. He saw him 3 times over the next 3 months. And when his dad got out he didn't want anything to do with him. My son is now 8 and still asks about his dad. He remembers what he looks like and everything. I would make sure that who ever is taking care of her makes sure to keep a picture of you two together having a good time laughing or what not and every day more than once a day show her the picture or have a couple copies of it and give it to her to hold. If you don't want her to forget just make your self unforgettable. 3 months isn't that long. And as long as who ever is taking care of her keeps you in her thoughts you both should do just fine.
2007-03-03 21:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by funny_girl_1974 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, she may play strange with you when you come back, but it won't take much time at all to get back into the swing of things. Just make sure that there are pictures of you around, and when you talk to your wife on the phone, have her put you on speaker phone so she hears your voice a lot... it'll be okay.. things happen that may not be the greatest like going to jail, but once thats done, hopefully, you'll NEVER have to go back and your relationship with your daughter will be consistent! Good Luck... it'll be okay, its only 3 months!!! Better than 3 years!!
2007-03-03 11:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long you are gone and how close you two were before you leave. If you two were really close she should remember you after a while. Make sure she has a picture of you and try to call home so she can hear your voice. I had to deploy and leave my 12 month old and she still remembers me. I get to talk to her a couple times a week and she sees my picture. Dont worry, if she does forget you, it wont take much for her to remember you.
2007-03-03 11:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by cynthia_0516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not she will remember you is entirely up to you.What you are doing now is a excellent start but when it will really matter is when you are not there in person.Sending her endless letters with pictures of you in them will help her to remember you.Also if her mother (HOPEFULLY SHE IS STILL INVOLVED WITH YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER) doing everything she can to keep you in your daughters mind will be a major help.But another thing to consider is your daughters age and the fact that she probably doesn't know one day from another should be considered.In THREE (3) month your daughter will not be even TWO (2) years old and most child experts believe that children do not understand the concept of one day from another until age ONE AND A HALF (1.5) to TWO (2).
2007-03-03 11:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably seem like she's forgotten you when you get back, but if the mom brings her to see you, or you have a strong existing relationship with her, she'll get used to you again really quickly. Fortunately you wont be gone long. Babies this age havent developed the reasoning yet to understand the concept or something existing when they cant see it. For her, when you arent there, you dont exist. But she'll remember you again, probably in under a week, I'd think, especially if you spend a lot of time with her now.
2007-03-03 11:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your child is not going to forget you. Unless you haven't had much of an impact on her life already. Just make sure you stay active in her life as much as you can - No matter what is going on in your life. My daughter her father doesn't spend much time with her at all (she is 5) but she knows who he is. She also what he is about now too.
2007-03-03 11:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if her mother will talk of you often and show her a photo of you. Perhaps you could frame one in a cute frame just for her to set in her room. ( Take out the glass to be safe) a tape recorder of your reading her a book is also a wonderful idea, or a video. Make 3-4 so she can hear/see different ones.
2007-03-03 11:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Petra 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She will NOT forget you. I went to USMC bootcamp, 13 weeks+ & came back home, she remembered me. She remembered me so much she started shaking until I picked her up & she laid her head on my shoulder for 10 mins straight. She won't forget you. She was 9 mo when I left & a little over a year when I came home.
2007-03-03 11:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might but will likely remember you again once you are out. Why don't you tape or record yourself talking to her, reading a story or singing a song for her to listen to while you are away and then your voice will sound familiar when you return. (I'm guessing you don't want to sing lullabies over the phone from jail : ) ).
2007-03-03 11:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by Allison S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋