i have stayed at home for the past 4 years to bring up my son..my partner works away for 4 days of the week and i did not want to put my son in child care to go to work....the problem is just lately when i catch up with friends they make me feel so inadequate as some have 3 children and work and are so busy but clearly getting on with life it makes me feel like a failure....up until now i have not minded being at home but now i feel bored and useless...my son attends a kindergaten for 2 hours in the afternoon....it will be another year till he goes to school and i can look for abit of part time work....i just feel every day is the same as the last and wonder how i will get through this next year...i am taking medication for depression and it does help..but because i have been so long not working i am now wondering if i will be able to cope when i do go back to work....has this happened to anyone else and what helped you.....thers only so much housework a person can do....
2007-03-03 10:53:35 · 10 answers · asked by loulou 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
what is right for some people is not always going to be right for you. congratulations for putting your sons welfare first. These people may only sound like they have life sorted. work could be an escape for them. \\\\bringing up children is the hardest job in the world. Everything else u can escape from.It is really hard to do it on your own especially this day and age well done you I think u r brilliant, \i wish more people put thier children first. you will be a much better peson when the time is right for you to go back to work, and u will know when that is, dont let others dictate or make you feel inadequate. In the meantime do something for you while your son is in the creche.because you wont have time when you do go back to work
2007-03-03 11:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it has happened to me. there are many antidepressants out there and it reallly takes a long time to find the right one for you so go back to your doctor for that.
As for being a failure. There is no harder job then being a full time mom. I was never so happy to go to work part time. My neighbor is a doctor, and I got the postition in the office. And I can take my 4 year old with me and she can play with there 2 kids in docs office away from the patients. It is not alway great because they run out to my office crying and they fight. So it is not easy, but when I got paid I felt so much better. I use to work nights weekends and holidays with my first child so my husband could work days. I will never go back to that again. If you have anyone that can babysit at anytime You should check into maybe a temp service where you might be able to get a break from being a mom. yes you need a break!!!!!! you are not a failure. Your wonder woman. !!!!
So go back to the doctors to change your med. I found zoloft worked the best for me at a low dose, and half in the morning and half at night.
2007-03-03 11:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi loulou. Take advantage of this time to prepare for the work you would LIKE TO DO when the time comes. Now is the time to study and train yourself so you will be ready. This will give you a goal which will improve your sense of wellbeing. It will also make your days meaningful!
Find your passion and your inspiration. Study and learn everything you can about that subject/field for the next year. The year will go quickly, your life will be full and meaningful, and you will find a great job (because you have prepared for it!) when the time is right. And ... don't be surprised if you don't need the drugs anymore.
Best wishes and good luck.
2007-03-03 11:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor J 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hun, what u need to remeber is staying at home to care for ur son is a hard full time job, these friends of urs mite have 2/3 kids and work but when do they spend quality time with them. u r not inadequate at all, ur doing ur best wich is all u can do, ur son goes school in a year....dont wish the time away. when hes at school u will wish he was back t home with u.
2007-03-03 11:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by rebecca j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have been working-caring for your son. I supose you could prepare for the work your planning on doing when your son goes to school. Have you thought of this already? There is also alot of educational work you can do via the computer or at home. Maybe take an evening course or learn at home.
2007-03-03 11:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Appel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel like a failure. It takes a lot to bring up a child, even when dealing with depression. Look at all the things you have gained since you had your son, doesnt it feel rewardable?
2007-03-03 11:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mess united statesat the on the spot are not a nasty ingredient because they are many times a maximum powerful attending to entice close adventure. Thomas Edison: I have not failed. i have merely chanced on 10,000 strategies that isn't artwork. someone the following stated it maximum suitable. i trust failure when I have did not stay as a lot as my expectations. So i imagine i'd be extra reachable on myself because i imagine i'm highly hard and it might want to correctly be affecting my health.
2016-10-17 10:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son should be keeping you plenty busy. The same every day? Do different activies with him. Take him places. He's only this age once, and if you're going to be home with him, make it mean something.
2007-03-03 11:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
staying home with the kids is a full time plus job. You are doing a remarkable thing for your child.
2007-03-03 10:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by slw_402000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Loulou,
Bottom line is: There's no easy answer. Can I recommend a free counseling service to you? go to peaceplusprogramdotcom
Take care,
Vince
2007-03-03 11:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Vincent J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋