i want my bf to do 2 small things for me?

Question

first thing is how can i get my bf to wear a tie to my prom as it a formal event and he just wants to go in a shirt but everyone else will have suits and ties how can i convince him to wear a tie?


second my bf instist on paying for every thing for me and im feeling guilty for it as he has no money for himself how can i tell him that i like the gifts but i dont them as the amount of money he spends on them?

please no suggestion saying dont take him to the prom or just let him pay for everything

Answer 1

Tell him how you really feel.Tell him looking elegant/nice for the prom is really important to you..As is making it a very special night && you want him to put the effort into doing that.Tell him you want him to do more smaller things for you.Tell him the money thing straight up how you said it,put it nice && sweet.Tell him whatever gifts he gives you are nice,but if they're too much money don't get them && its better to have a gift that is sincere that is less money then a gift that is expensive with no thoughts/sincerity.

Answer 2

Go to the Men's Wearhouse and talk to a salesman. I had to go on a cruise with my wife. On the cruise, there are formal events. I have vowed to never wear a tie in this life. I was hooked up with a wonderful suit that was tieless, looked great, looked formal, no tie. Everyone was happy. Concerning the money thing, that requires communication. He's probably a little insecure about your relationship. Make sure he knows you aren't going to run off and that he doesn't have to be proving his love to you by buying you stuff. Tell him you love him and you know he loves you and that is the greatest gift you could ask for.

Answer 3

about the paying, just say "I'm happy for you, you seem to have suddenly aquired a large cash inflow, but unfortunately, i am still broke. Your constant lavish gifts make me feel like i need to buy you something but I just can't afford it." About the tie thing, there is not much you can do and I bet some of the other guys won't be wearing one either. If not, you'll probably be the only one there who looks like they have a cool date to prom, not just some guy who's dressed up in his dad's clothes and made himself look like an idiot. You want to stand out don't you. I bet you son't want all the other girls to buy the same dress as you, eh? Maybe he feels the same. You can probably convince him to wear a tie not done up properly (the more casual look) but you can't force him. You shouldn't really be worried about that sort of thing. if you really care, take a black tie with you, and if when you get there, you still care and feel uncomfortable around everyone else coz they look like they're about to meet royalty, grab him and tie it around his neck. If it is this bad, i don't think he'll aboject, but trust me, it probably won't come to that. Good Luck with making your bf bend to your will power!!

Answer 4

Have a serious heart to heart conversation with your boyfriend and tell him exactly what you just told all of us. You'd like him to wear a tie because this prom means alot to you. If he refuses again, then talk to him about why he doesn't want to. Then make a mutual decision together about what to do about the tie. Trying to compromise and find a fair middle.

Then have another converstaion about how you feel about him paying for everything. Make sure he knows why you feel this way. Let him respond to your feelings and then make sure to ask him his thoughts on the matter. Then after both of you have felt heard, make a mutual decision about what will happen with the money. Make sure you compromise.

Care, Communication, and Compromise are the right ingredients for a successful relationship.

Answer 5

1st issue : show him some pictures form other proms (freinds, family etc) where all are wearing suits and indirectly mention how odd he will look among all those people

2nd issue: if you can not convince him by all means not to pay ... think about something that he wants so much and he does not have the money to get .. and buy it for him as a present ... but do it after the prom as a sign of thank you

last advice ... not all advices can work for all people ..so it is only you who should know ur bf and should know what advice could have potential and worth trying and what could be way off line and could have a -ve effect

best of luck
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Answer 6

prom: explain him how much important is for you that he is the more handsome and makes you proud in the prom so he needs to dress up very well. you may find a compromise:there are some nice formal shirts to which you can not put tie. maybe you can buy him one. this is what i wear in similar cases cos i dont like ties (reminds of my work at office)

paying:dont feel guilty, this is the way for him to show how much he loves you.

Answer 7

This is a great question. I had both of these problems with my husband, and now it looks like I may also with my new boyfriend.

It's a touchy situation with the gifts. It makes them feel good to get these little things, that frankly, I don't want around, like stuffed animals, etc. My husband finally learned not to get me a lot of that stuff, but he was hurt for years that I didn't appreciate the gestures enough.

My advice is to be true to yourself. Tell him, "I feel so touched that you are so giving and want to give me things. But do you realize that what means So Much More to me is a wonderful hug from you?...How you choose to spend your money isn't my business, but would you mind if I tell you my feelings on this one thing?"

"Okay."

"I really would prefer you didn't get me any more gifts until my birthday or Christmas. How about we go get some dinner instead?"

Answer 8

As far as the prom goes, maybe you can come to a compromise such as tie for pics and the beginning and once he's there he can take it off? And for the little gifts, just tell him you really appreciate all the gifts he gives you, but tell him you feel sort of bad b/c he spends so much on you. As long as you tell him how much you appreciate it, I think he will understand and back off. If she doesn't, then that's his decision.

Answer 9

Tell him that the suit will make him look more like a gentlemen or some celebrety you know he admire or respect. If he's just paying for the prom stuff. Let him do it. Probably, it makes him feel good about himself, it gives him some type of security. But if he continue on bying you stuff, try to tell him that you really appreciate his gesture, but you have enough for now, to just lay low on the gifts for a while. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Ask him to wear it and tell him how you feel. Mention to him that he'll look more handsome to you if he wore it and if he resisits remind him that he won't be wearing it for long and it's for a special event.

About the money tell him how you feel about that too and maybe you can tell him not to spend as much. It seems to me that he's not going to stop getting things for you. However, the two of you can come to compromise how much he spends.