is this normal?

Question

my dog died over 2 years ago, and i havnt been able to get over it yet. i think i have cried every day since hes been gone. i have a new dog,but its just not the same. what should i do =(

Answer 1

i think you should go see your docotor cause if you are still crying every day and its been 2 years there could be something wrong!

Answer 2

My dog also died a few years ago and I get a little teary if I think about her too much. Personally, I wouldn't recommend pretending your new dog is your old dog. Doing this is not going to help you get over the death of your old dog. And it's not going to make for a stable relationship with your new dog. It's ok to still miss your old dog. Pets are a part of your family and losing one is like losing a family member. And it's not like you want to forget you had your old dog, especially if it was an important part in your life. You could make up a memorial to your old dog, like a picture in a frame or something along those lines. As for your new dog, maybe if you discover different qualities that your old dog didn't have, you can take your mind off missing your old dog so much. It might not work right away, but this way you can bond with your new pet and learn new personality traits about them each day. Feel better!

Answer 3

It's normal to always grieve a lost pet, just like a lost human being. The dog was part of your life, your family, and was probably the only one to listen without judgement when you needed it most. As to the crying everyday after two years . . .this may sound crazy, but have you just looked at a picture of your late dog and just talked to it? Just let everything you're feeling out? It helps. It may hurt like hell while you're doing it, but you walk away feeling . . . I don't know, like you've been healed a bit. I've done this myself multiple times, and each time I feel better.

You need to give this new dog of yours their own place in your heart. It's NEVER going to be the same, because every dog is different and no dog can go in your heart and soul where another dog has been. They light up your life in completely different ways. Don't compare the two dogs, don't hold expectations on the new one, and let this new one grow into his own without judgement. Just accept the dog for who they are. Like your late one accepted you. No comparisions, no trying to mold the dog. Just loving them.

Answer 4

it's perfectly okay to cry over a lost pet. I've cried almost every day since I lost my cat, and she died like....7 years ago? I've lost track...Anyways, it's normal, you'll never truely get over losing a loved pet.
You're right too, having another dog isn't the same as the one before it. Just try to go on with life, and still love the dog you have now.

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

Wow, 2 years, you must have been incredibly attached to your old pet. I know how it feels, I have had many pets that have gone on and no, the new ones are never the same. You have to teach yourself about the new dog and let your old one go. There are grief web sites for people who have lost their companions, you might try taking a look at some of them. They're mostly just poetry and stories but very comforting.
Take a closer look at your new pet, he/she has some new things to show you if you'll only give him/her the time.

Answer 6

I lost my little peke-a-poo a month and a half before he would have been 17. He woke up crying in pain one day and I knew what I had to do. It wasn't easy, but I did it because I loved him with all of my heart and still do.

A few days later I went to the vet to pick up his ashes and they were in a lovely receptical with roses on it (we never discussed what it would look like but it couldn't be more beautiful). And I cried my eyes out. That dog was very special to me and can never be replaced. But I sort of started a conversation that I hoped he might hear--kind of like when people visit graves and speak to their loved ones. I told him that I missed him with all my heart. There would never be another dog that could ever take his place, but if if there was any way I needed him to send me one of his little friends because I just couldn't go on for very long without a furry little buddy by my side.

A month and a half later a friend who works at the local animal shelter called to say that a Lhasa Apso had come in and was I interested. At first I didn't think I could do it--house not "puppy proofed" and all, but as the day went on I realized I could and went to meet the dog that night at the shelter. Well of course he came home with me--and on what would have been my Peke-a-Poo's 17th birthday!!!

He will never repalce the dog I had. I can't possibly expect him to--that would be unfair. What I CAN and DID do was to let him be himself! I have a dog that is a very unique individual that is wonderful in his OWN right! It's not at all the same, but you know what? As much as I miss my old dog--I'm glad my new one is who he is!

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Don't stop crying, remembering, and loving. That'll only make things worse. Remember the good times, not the bad. Enjoy the time you have with your new dog right now, because it will eventually die also, that's life.

It helps to tell yourself that you will see her again someday.

Answer 8

well don't neglect it.when my dog died two years ago also i thought i would never get over it but i got another dog the same day and i was crying like crazy she was a small baby beagle and she was homeless i felt like my puppy wanted me to have her because she loved me so much.Just slowly cry yourself out of it and love the puppy as much as your passed dog would want to you to love and be loved.(:-)

Answer 9

you should keep the dog. but you know that the new dog will never take the place of your old dog in your heart. right

Answer 10

hey it sucks to loose something you love, but no it is not normal for you to grieve this long. ?Most people do not cry for a year after loosing a human friend. So if your that upset you need to seek some counseling and hopefully get over it...Lets

Answer 11

Try to adjust to your new dog and pretend your new dog is your old dog. I am sorry if this sounds odd, but I been through this :-(