If they live out of state, and you know they can't come, do you still send them an invitation? I don't want anyone's feelings to be hurt by not receiving an invitation, but I also don't want them to think I expect them to travel just for a shower. How do you handle this?
2007-03-03 10:09:40 · 7 answers · asked by It's Me 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You could go ahead and send the invitation, with a note inside stating "We would sure love to see you for the shower, but if you can't come due to the distance, we certainly understand. Please know that you'll be with us in our thoughts". This gives the person receiving the invitation the opportunity to decide for themselves if they would like to come or not, and also lets them know they were thought of. If they feel so inclined, it also provides them with an opportunity to send a gift (if they wish) in lieu of their attendance.
2007-03-03 10:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should send them an invitation anyway. They might surprise you and show up. If you know for sure that they can't keep the invite,then don't worry about. It was the thought of you sending it that counts. (Now) You can save a "stamp",by giving them a call,and inviting them. That way they can tell you if they can come or not themselves. This will prevent them from being embarrassed,by not showing up. (Good Luck)
2007-03-03 10:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you chose to send them an invitation just to let them feel included, be sure to add that you don't expect gifts somewhere on the invite. I know, it's tacky to mention anything about gifts on an invitation, but I suppose in the case where the person knows that you know they can't attend, they'll view the invite as an attempt to get gifts. Write something like, "No gifts, please, your presence will be gift enough. If you are unable to attend you will be with us in spirit during these happy times"
2007-03-03 11:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite them, and don't worry about it. No one expects to be invited to baby showers that are held out of town, and most would perceive getting one to be a solicitation for a gift. If the potential invitee is close to the mother to be I'm sure that they will be sending a gift on their own.
2007-03-03 10:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the out of town guests an invitation, they will be glad to know that they have been included even if they can attend. A gift will follow in any case. They will call and you can let them know that you know that its a hardship for them to come so far, but you wanted them to know that you thought of them and wanted to include them.
2007-03-03 10:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Diane T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you send them an invitation, and let them know were you are registered, they cannot make it but they would love to share your joy with a gift,
2007-03-03 15:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, a shower is given by and for one's closest friends, and theoretically, one's "closest friends" would be happy to be invited, even if they can't come. (I realize that doesn't really help you with the borderline cases.)
2007-03-03 10:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋