I have already had 2 children, 2 boys aged 2 and 7.
I always thouht that i had finished having kids, and that i would now concentrate on getting a career, and am 1/3 of my way through a degree...but all of a sudden i feel myself getting very broody, and wanting more children....i know that it is partly due to the fact that my best friend has just had a baby, but i cant seem to control my urge to have a baby. Do you think this will pass, or is it a sign that i do want more kids, not just being silly coz my friend had just had one?
2007-03-03 09:27:45 · 16 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have a biological urge to have a baby around the house. After two children I had to ignore it because a third would have grown up too and then I'd have wanted another. Where do you stop?
2007-03-04 01:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by Older&Wiser 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it will pass, I understand exactly how you feel, my brother & his partner had a baby last year and I started to feel the same as you. Having another baby would have been abit difficult for us as my husband had the snip about 5 years ago. Our children are 14, 11 & 8 so I guess I was a little sad that that part of my life (babies nappies etc) was over. But really I'm out working now being ME for the 1st time since I left school. I'm only 30 and children is all i've really known. I glad now we didnt do anything about reversing my husbands Op because I really believe the novelty would have worn off had I bite the bullet and got pregnant again.
Be you for another while yet, live a few new dreams and if the feeling is still there in a few years then go for it. Good luck
2007-03-03 09:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by chatter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's quite difficult to say without knowing you, but I know how you feel - I felt exactly like you!!
I have a 4 year old boy, and last Summer my best friend and loads of the other mothers at my son's school were all sporting baby bellies and I felt really jealous, the jealousy gradually turned into broodiness...
I acted on it (I'm not saying you should or shouldn't), I'm now 30 weeks pregnant with a little girl, and although it has been a difficult high-risk pregnancy, I am also living one of the happiest times of my life. I realise now that it wasn't just silliness or broodiness, it was something I had been wanting deep down, and now I can't wait to meet my new baby. We are all so happy right now, me, my partner and my son, and I feel it was very much the right decision for me.
Good luck with whatever you decide!!
2007-03-03 23:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hormonal thing and one of nature's way of insuring survival of the species. It happens to a lot of women--they get around other people's babies and start wanting another one themselves. Think it out logically. Can you afford another baby? Do you really want to do the diaper/day care thing again? How old will you be when he/she's ready to go to college? Keep working towards that degree--there are other kinds of fulfillment for a woman these days, and you will be so proud.
If you'd like to have a baby, borrow your best friend's baby for a few evenings while she and her husband go out for dinner or something. It might help you decide, and I'm sure she'd appreciate it.
2007-03-03 09:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
By asking the question, I think you really know the answer.
Children are wonderful most of the time, but ask yourself this, would it not be easier and more satisfying to borrow your friends baby after all after a few hours the little one goes back to a well rested friend, just a thought.....
Finish you degree first and if you still feel the same, go for it. at least you have something to go on with once the children have flown the coop
2007-03-03 17:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will pass ... i am 33 and have 3 sons and even tho i dont want any more children i still get broody .... It passes remember tho u are a woman and we do, well most of us, get these urges we cant help it ... finish your course and if u still feel the same have another one !!
2007-03-03 09:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finish your degree, then discuss with your partner, you can`t give in to broody feelings all the time or you`ll end up with a football team.
2007-03-03 09:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Finish your degree and start writing down your dreams beyond that education. Then see if these dreams are possible with three or four children..remember children are a "life time sentenced" - they don't just disappear in time.
Charley
2007-03-03 09:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by detroit_charley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish your degree then decide.You mightn't get the chance to do the degree again and blame the poor child.If your best friend jumped off a cliff would you want to do the same?
2007-03-03 09:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by sanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just being silly cos your friend has just had one.
Get your education, feel blessed you have 2.
If your having to ask love, then you dont really want!
2007-03-03 09:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by magic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋