I is straight but when im making love to a woman i have urges and thoughts about guys what the hell is going on
2007-03-03 09:24:46 · 12 answers · asked by Metalup87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear "Help,"
It is clinically proven that both sexes have thoughts and urges towards members of the same gender at some point during their life, it is completely normal. Depending on your age, you might be in the phase where these urges are the strongest.
It is important to think about why you have said urges: Are you just curious? Is it actually arousing? Do you think of specific men or is it just bodies? If you are thinking of a specific individual, what is it actually that you are attracted to? Their body, their character, what? Do you care about the woman you are making love to and could that be part of it? If you aren't emotionally involved, or at the very least attracted, it is natural that your mind might wander.
On the other hand it might be a call to seriously explore your sexuality, really think about who you are attracted to and why? Ie: if everyone has always told you you should be attracted to women, you never really had a chance to form your own opinion on what is sexy to you.
Don't freak out over this, give yourself some time. Most likely it is simply a phase, an aspect of your hormones settling into a stable pattern.
If it is not, I would recommend you talking to someone about it, anonymously if need be. There are a number of good numbers you can call depending on where you are (ie country, state, province.)
No matter what, don't let anyone tell you what you naturally feel, what you cannot help, is somehow wrong, dirty, sinful or any other ridiculous thing like that, NOTHING is wrong with you.
Good luck.
2007-03-03 09:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by meraphetamine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your first time, did you felt the way before, and if you thought about that every time you made love to woman. Then of course you're gay you should go find the man for yourself.
2007-03-03 17:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ashisweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...Are you sure that you are straight? I have never heard of anything like that. What type of things do you think about and watch when you aren't having sex? There is something making you think about men. This isn't normal. I think you should tell the person you are with. And confront your feelings!
2007-03-03 17:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just dont have complete confidence in yourself and while you are making love to a woman you are trying to think of what other guys would do..you may be over reacting so just calm down and chill..im sure you are fine.
hope this helps..
2007-03-03 17:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are by, you dont need help you need a man to see what is really goin on
2007-03-03 17:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by TOOTS0822 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly that just your homrones....and some guys do get those...my cousin does and its not totally completly weird..
2007-03-03 17:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by DJJDB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure speak with a therapist if your concerned
2007-03-03 17:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U might be in denial about being gay.
2007-03-03 17:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMFG!! UR TURNING..GAY!!! AAAHHH!!! well...guess ur GAY! congrats! lol..well try it wit a guy den..
2007-03-03 17:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Toki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are bisexual. indulge yourself and expreiment.
2007-03-03 17:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by OpenMePoet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋