Im 25 and single and on the weekends, I usually go out in Philadelphia to some bars with my friends. I don't go to night clubs or the bars the college kids hang out at. I generally go to bars wth people my age or a little older, where the atmosphere is a little more mature and low key than a wild college bar. Everyone tells me "Don't meet guys in a bar...all they want is to sleep with you." However, thats not the case with my guy friends. Theyre a little too old to be doing that. Of course, if it happens, they wouldnt turn a girl away, but its not their main purpose of going out. So, is it possible to meet nice people in bars? Im a nice girl and I go to bars? And if not, where can I meet someone? (BTW, Im not interested in meeting someone online or in church...because I don't go)
2007-03-03 09:22:54 · 19 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure you can, you just have to be extra cautious. Personally, though, the bar scene was all bad news for me, met my first husband at one and although we have a beautiful daughter together, he's more a lsoer now than the day I met him.
2007-03-03 09:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to meet someone in a bar., especially one lie the atmosphere that you have described. Many people that go to bars which I use loosely because it sounds more like a lounge, are really more mature people who are good people but do not really know how to meet the opposite sex. Therefore they are there just to get away from the job and rela. Alot of time you can engage in some stimulating conversation. Contrary to popular belief ther are good guys out there and yes they attend bars lounges too... Good luck..
2007-03-03 09:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible to meet a good person anywhere Maybe your more likley to meet someone who'd only looking for a one night stand but there's no rule saying that's the only case. Also if you do meet someone who's only interested in one night, the easy solution is just to not invite anybody home with you or sleep with them on the first few dates, that weeds them out pretty effectively.
If you have other interests you could try joining an adult class, life drawing if you like to draw, or kickboxing/karate if your more physical. It could be lots of fun, teach you something, get you in shape, and introduce you to new people you would never have met otherwise.If you want to meet men, a sewing circle is probably out of the question, but there are lots of co-ed activities or male-dominated activities out there.
2007-03-03 09:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not find a good guy there cause good guys do not go to such places. We stay at home, go to church or other organizations, do things online or with the family, etc.
A place like a bar, dance club is the last place we would be found at. Guys lie....any guy who is at a bar is there for a quickie, nothing more. Most will tell you a sob story so you think they are different, but that's just a story, just like the lines men feed to you are lies.
A real man doesn't need lines to meet a woman, a simple hello works for us.
2007-03-03 09:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well bars is defiantly the place to meet people that are mature and looking for the future parent of their children.
Me thinks you are not as mature and not as "nice of a girl" as you think. Look at it this way. There is a difference between a nice boyfriend and a responsible MAN looking for a WOMAN.
2007-03-03 09:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam a lot older then you girlie,and i use to drink at 1 time and i was in alot of bars,and believe me,a bar is no place to meet guys.they are after just 1 thing,and you know what that is.who knows,you might leave with something that you didnt have before you came there,like some kind of desease.believe me,i know what iam talking about.you better listen to someone who knows.good luck,in what ever road you choose to lead.god bless.
2007-03-03 10:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can not beacuse everyone who is anyone goes to a bar to drink or get drunk and it is not a good idea but maybe it is possible BUT be carful with the guys you pick and don't just go to a bar to meet a bf because u r desperit go beacuse it really is going to be true love
2007-03-03 09:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by houston_hottie101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. People go to bars to drink, and when you've been drinking, your actions reflect that. In my opinion, it's very difficult to tell if you really "connect" with someone in a bar atmosphere at all.
It would be difficult to meet someone and judge if he were really a "nice" guy or not.
2007-03-03 09:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by cari anna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's worked out for you thus far, then I wouldnt change anything. Just beware that there are a lot of creeps that hang out in bars.
Haha but I do agree with you on the not meeting someone in church......
2007-03-03 09:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rocker Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my BF on my 24th B-Day at a bar, and that was three years ago.....we are getting married in Sept. Just pick the right bar, you will find someone!
2007-03-03 09:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by I do what I want.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋