iam 18 and my boyfriend has left me because iam keeping the baby he said i was shelfish because he didn't want the baby i have my mums support my other family members dont know yet, i was on the pill. i still live with mum and dad and i will move out later on if dad dont chuck me out before! has anyone else been a single mother?
2007-03-03 09:21:33 · 15 answers · asked by nicky.x 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Seems to me your alot more mature than your boyfriend. I was a single mum, at 16. It was hard, very hard but my son is 14 now and my whole world. Hes no different than any other 14 yr old apart from I can put up with his so called music longer and he can talk to me more openly can I ever could to my parents.
My advice to you is take each day at a time, do things when the time is right. And just because your baby wasn't planned enjoy being pregnant and love being a Mum, it is a very precious thing and you should cherish every moment from now on..
As for your boyfriend, it will be his mistake not yours!!
Good luck with everything xx
2007-03-03 09:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by chatter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mum of 2 boys, and it is very hard, but u need to look at all the positive....you will be the one they will thank when they are older, and unlike married couples, you will be the only one who has a say in how they are brought up, therefore avoiding anyone else getting all the praise for how well your kids turn out!!
I hated being a single mum at 1st, but i now think that although it is very hard and stressful, i would NEVER change it!
You will probably get people on here, giving answers like 'you cant cope alone'etc....but believe in yourself.....u can do it!
good luck!!
2007-03-03 09:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a single mother, but was raised by one and my sister was young, but not single. If you really think that your mother will help you out then keep the baby. But if you can't afford to move out if they kick you out, then you might want to consider putting the baby up for adoption. But you probably don't want people telling you to give up your baby, I know I could never do it. You do what you need to. I just know from lots of second hand experience that it can be really hard. Make sure your mother is willing to let you stay there until you make enough money to move out and afford everything you need.
Good luck
2007-03-03 09:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i was before i found a great bloke who didnt mind me having a little girl. i found it very hard being a single mom because when you go and get your baby weighed and things people say is the baby all mommy or all daddy and you just want to scream after a while because its like they are rubbing in the fact that the babys dad walked away. its not there fault they dont know but its just so annoying so please be prepared for that i wasnt and wish i had been. you will be fine though i promise if i can do it then im sure you can you wil be a great mom.
2007-03-04 08:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness_1984uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't have the experience of being a single mother, i still live with the father of my child, although the relationship is far from perfect..... the reason for me answering your question was more to do with my disgust at some of the other answers on here ! please don't take any notice of those narrow minded idiots. i'm sure that u will make a good mother. not all single mother's just have kids so that they can get a council house, etc, etc. good luck hon - i'm sure your dad will get over the shock of it all when he's had time to think, and hopefully u will have the support of the rest of your family too.
2007-03-03 09:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have still got your mums support so if you do move out then i'm sure she will help, as long as you are happy and healthy then becoming a single mum will be fine there are loads of different groups you can attend at your local doctors for single mums and play groups when the baby is born, when i was a single mum i loved it, i was happy and got loads of support form friends, i love being a mum so i found it easy and my child was happy too, now i have a new wonderful partner and we are having a baby in september so stay posative and look forward to your new arrivel when you start to buy baby grows ect the feeling sets in and you bloom, your dad will come reound when he sees his beautiful granchild
2007-03-03 10:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by CLAIRE BEAR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is the selfish one, not you. you are chosing another life over your own while he is chosing himself over a child. Thats great that your family is behind you. Its very important to have a support system. I got pregnant and 17 and I was a single mom for a long time with 2 kids. Im not gonna lie, its very hard but its sooo worth it and as they get older, it gets easier! I wish you the best of luck and congrats :)
2007-03-03 12:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is being selfish by expecting you to get rid of your baby! He's obviously also too immature to face up to his responsibilities.
You're doing the right thing. Are you in the UK? There's loads of help out there - get your midwife to refer you to Surestart for help and support when your baby is born.
I've just had my first baby - 13 weeks ago and beleive me, when you hold that dear little person in your arms and see them smile up at you you'll feel like all your Christmases have come at once! Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-03 11:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not selfiswh hon its ur ex thats the selfish pig so get as much child support off him as possible, enjoy ur pregnancy and ur mum sounds as tho shes going to stick by u and ur dad will probibly take a while to come round when he gets told but the sooner u do it the better hon, i really do hope everything goes well for u and if u want to talk email me xxx
2007-03-03 12:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you will be a better single mum than you would if you were a couple with him, many mothers are single and are fantastic parents and cope really well i am sure you will to and try not to worry about your dad he maybe upset to begin with but he will come round
2007-03-03 18:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋