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I just found out my mom is marrying this jerk she was dating, he is a complete loser drinks everyday, spends all her money, steals from her and hates me and my brothers. And worst off he is constetly yelling at my 3 month old baby when he crys. When he drinks he gets all perverted but my mom dosnt see it. What could i say to her to make her realize its not a good move to make.?? Please help.!

2007-03-03 08:59:12 · 5 answers · asked by jade 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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Have you talked to your mom and told her what's happening?
I'm talking about a serious talk... sit down and lay it all out.

Also, you have to tell her that you'll most likely will not be over a lot since the guy is inappropriate, especially when he drinks. Of course, you have to mean it too.

Your mom is an adult and she's allowed to make her own decisions. However, you, as a loving caring daughter, just have to give her all of the information and let her decide for good or bad. Your mom makes her decisions and you make your own decisions for you and your children.

I think that's all you can really do... unless you want to hire a private investigator to do a background search on the guy.

If you told her what's happening, what was her reaction?

2007-03-06 03:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dave C 7 · 0 0

Can you move in with your dad or some other family members? Sadly, your mom is probably too blind right now and won't listen to anything you have to say. The best thing you can do is move yourself, your child and your siblings out of the home to a safe environment.

Good luck!

2007-03-03 20:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0 0

Sometimes us moms forget about our kids and their feelings, we don't mean to but we do thats where your work is cut out for you because you have to make her see and belive you without making her think that your just saying things because your jealous of him. And thats hard to do especially the preverted part what women wants to belive that her boyfriend or husband is making passes at her daughter. Sometimes its easier to think that its your fault then his and that hurts, but thats just how we what to see things. You shouldn't be around him when he drinks or let your brothers or sisters around him either, don't give him the chance to do these things to you make sure your mother is around you both at the same time and don't leave your son around him either if he's yelling at him when your there can you imagen when your not there. If your mom drinks with him try to talk to her before she has her first drink. Have a heart to heart with her, talk to her woman to woman, not daughter to mother. Tell her how you would belive your daughter if she came and talked to you about something like this, why would you make something up like this. Make her see that your out for her happiness, and nothing else. As heart breaking it is to have this happening in your life, your mothers heart will be broken more. First because I don't know how old your mother is but if you have a baby already that tells me that shes already up there in age, and belive me its not easy to find a man thats willing to take a woman on if she has kids and older, they always what young women and no kids. So thats the first thing then theres you, she'll think that she already raised you and its none of your business. Don't get mad at her talk to her, she will open her eyes its how you talk to her thats the thing, don't make a fight out of it talk to her like you would be telling her about a good book. Tell her just to watch him if she doesn't belive you, tell her to listen to the way he talks to your son, no grandma likes to hear anyone yell at her grandchildren. I will be praying for you and if you do things like I've told you to do your problem should go away and so should that ugly man that calls himself your moms Boyfriend.

2007-03-03 23:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by crankyfeline2000 1 · 0 0

You can talk to her but its her life. I do recommend however that you keep your kids away from him at all times.

2007-03-03 17:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0 0

Just get out of there fast. You won't change her mind. Save yourself. I get really bad feelings about this one. Move please.

2007-03-03 19:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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