Would you go to his house & confront his girlfriend?

Question

Please don't answer with you should have known better because I know better NOW being 40 yrs old this month, NEVER been married OR had a child but, I've got to deal with this problem rather than deal with the should have's. Here's the problem, I'm NOW pregnant by a JERK whom in July 2006 butted himself into my life. This jerk claimed from day one he NO longer loved/wanted his girlfriend whom he STILL lives with along with 2 children they breed together PLUS her child she'd bore B4 they met. They've ALL lived together the past 14 years. They NEVER married, he's supported her, she's NEVER worked. I pushed this jerk away for 3 months stating that he must FINISH their relationship, regardless, he spent every single moment everyday he could with me. AFTER 3 months, I'd slept with him. NOW pregnant, he flipped out demanding an abortion. He's FAILED to show 3 x's with $ he's promised. He's hateful leaving me alone/scared. Would you go to his house & tell his girlfriend? Keep baby?

I am thinking I want to keep my baby because I obviously can NOT find a real man, however, I am scared to death raising a child alone. This jerk makes AWESOME money and I will either sue or have the state to get him. PLEASE, what am I going to do? I have NO family to support me and am a BIG TIME loner. I am angry as hell this JERK is such a lying using piece of ****. ALSO, I am afraid this guy will totally go mad if I do decide to keep and raise the baby on my own. HELP?

Answer 1

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Don’t be afraid. Sue him if he can’t be a real man. Make him pay child support. Many guys are pigs and yeah some guys suck lol. Don’t be scared. But think about holding a beautiful child in your hands. I know you’ll make the right decision. But if you don’t have the baby ad get an abortion you will wish you could have seen what it would be and regret sleeping with him. Because I can tell it is probably why he was with you. The case for many guys play with the toy and throw it away. I feel bad and wish you had a real man that will marry you and treat the child like his own. Be strong. Keep your head up girl.
Hope dis helps good luck = P

Answer 2

Uh, you should sue for child support. But why hurt her b/c of your mistake?

Chances are you aren't the first. And, although you tried to push him away, you didn't do a good enough job. You say "he spent every single moment everyday he could with me." Um, well, he could not have done that if you hadn't allowed him to. You gav lip service to him having to end his relationship bt didn't really mean it apparently.

You didn't say you had a relationship, but just that you'd slept together.

You knew he had a GF and no matter how bad she was/is, she was still his GF AND they have kids. Are you happy about being a homewrecker and blaming it all on him? Don't be. You weren't entirely mislead (if at all). Or were you?

I know you don't want to hear that you should've know better, but you should have. And honestly I don't mean to offend you but I'm sure this will: you sound almost as bad as he does.

Answer 3

I would confront the girlfriend over the phone. only for the simple fact you do not know her and you do not know what type of person she is, and seing how your pregnat your are going to want to keep you and your baby safe. I would let her know what he did(she may not care since it sounds like he is a sugar daddy to her since she dose not work) I would keep the baby. The baby is a good thing you get a chance to be a mom. My sister dad is the same way he went around and got all these random girls pregnat but i could not imagine my mom having an abortion am me no longer having my sister. a baby could be the best thing you get from that loser. Good Luck

Answer 4

I wouldn't waste my time talking to his g/f. I'd raise the baby myself and hit him up for child support. I wouldn't expect him to pay it but he'd know I don't need him and my baby means more to me than he ever will. I'll leave him out in the cold so fast it would make his head spin. My baby would come first over any man.

Answer 5

the child is your responsibility, why did you not use contraceptives if you did not want a child. what reason is there to go and tell his partner, best to forget about him if you are of independent means and can afford to raise the child, if you cant then you will have to see a lawyer and sue for maintaince. But do you really want to keep up a contact with this jerk

Answer 6

girl, keep that baby. show him that you can do this, and him messing up aint gonna effect you. i am sorta in this situation right now, without the baby. my ex is engaged, but he told me he still loves me. i broke up with my boyfriend because this guy said that he couldnt stand bein with this girl and we had a future. she confronted him when she found out, and he chose her over me. i told my new ex, and he went a confronted him. this guy lied about everything we did, and said that i am lying. guys are assholes, and i would do it again even though it was wrong. this will help me grow and this will help you grow. just stick threw it and have this child. dont let him ruin a perfectly innocent babies life.

Answer 7

If you need someone to talk to you can message me. Your not alone, please don't be scared. You are confused. Beleive in yourself. Health_needed. I can't see you until I not toxic.


I love you. Everything is going to be fine. If you would just trust me.