I'm wondering, after breaking away from Christianity (or Xianism) I'm wondering how I would go about breaking away from the christian church I attended for about a year or so. I am 22 and my parents still want me to go. I've told them "I don't want to" and they ask why and I go "because I don't want to". Obviously this is MY decision not theirs.
I've thought about JUST attending on holidays but that wouldn't be good either.
2007-03-03 08:49:02 · 17 answers · asked by Meatwad 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Slowly quit attending...just like letting a girl friend down easy. Call less and less, go out less and less, start "dating" other people.
Make your disappearance gracefully slow and most people won't notice. Don't talk much and blend in with the wall paper. When you make your final exit, no one will much notice.
When I was your age and not living at home, my mom would ask which church I was going to and if I went to church today. I always told her yes as it did no good to make her upset or to put myself in a position to explain anything. Tell them what they want to hear and do what you want to do. You don't have to explain anything to anyone.
Been there and know all about the guilt trip...like I owe my mom an explaination. How about this line..."Mom, my religious life is very personal to me and I'd rather not talk about it but this church just isn't how I believe." You are 22 and not accountable to your mom any more but I understand the need to not upset your parents.
2007-03-03 08:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what you are beliving now, but if you want to break from the church, then shouldn't your reason be better than 'Because I don't want to go" You need to be more open with your parents. People will always ask you why you believe a certain way or why you don't believe a certain way. Your parents are going to be just the beginning of that saga. You need to sit down with yourself and figure out a true reason of why you no longer want to be a Christian. I can promise you that your parents will be upset about this. So, be gentle with them and be understanding. Talk with them honestly because otherwise, you will get this question every single Sunday. As far as holidays, you may want to continue to attend then to be respectful to your family. Remind yourself that it's about family sometimes more than it is about the church service. It's just a thought.
2007-03-03 08:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 04:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kindda understand where you are coming from. It's hard to tell your parents that you don't want to do something that they believe is for your own good or salvation or whatever. I suggest for you to really evaluate why you don't want to go, sit them down and explain. If it doesn't work, then go back to because I don't want to. You are old enough to make your own decision about this but they are your parents and giving them a good reason will show that maybe you are ok to make your own decisions. Remeber that parents always see kids as kids you know ... Good luck
2007-03-03 08:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by isa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you still live with your parents? That makes things trickier. They should understand that coercing you to go when you indeed don't want to will only make you want to go less. As it has been said, "You can lead a horse to water, but cannot make it drink." Do you have better things to do than to go to church? You'll have to find some kind of work to do sunday mornings. And I wouldn't just go on holidays~ you either believe or you don't...
2007-03-03 08:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bog-man 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As a child being born into a Christian family give you great benefits like Gods Word that explains our sin and the curse we live under and the way of salvation in Christ. Its important for parents to train their children in this way. However as an adult you should not be compelled to go as this would only be hypocrisy. God loves a cheerful giver even in worship and if you can't worship Him cheerfully you should be welcome but not compelled to go.
2007-03-03 09:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by beek 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stop attending.
Ofcourse in regards to your parents - you'll obviously have to deal with the consequences there...you need to take your stand no matter what you decide.
However, it's unfortunate that you aren't interested in continuing to attend the Christian church.
God bless you in making your decision.
2007-03-03 09:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by redglory 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most Churches hold service on Sunday. Tell them the real Sabbath day is the last day of the week!
2007-03-03 08:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Skipper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just try to find another church? maybe the one you go to just isn't a good fit. don't let the enemy get between you and God. i'm 24, so i understand how difficult it is to make life and Christianity go together at this point, but you have to cling to Him. i pray that you don't decide to leave the church. leave that church, that's fine, but don't leave the body of Christ. if you do, just know that He will always be there waiting for you with open arms.
2007-03-03 08:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by jessica4476 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if your parent are really strict about religion you should get them used to the idea of u not being a Cristian slowly they'll get used to it eventually
fortunately my parents accepted my religion as my personal choice so it was easy for me
2007-03-03 08:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋