Ok, I love my sister and I don't like to get into her business, but it has gotten to the point where if I don't help her terrible things could happen to her and her children. Yesterday I witnessed for the first time her boyfriend abusing her. I had my suspisions but I never expected how bad it was. He punched her in her face twice and kicked her half way down the stairs. Whats worse is she is 5 months pregnant with their baby. How could he be so cold? I lost my temper then and attacked him on my own, thank goodness he didn't attack me back. But what do I do? She refused to call the police and the baby is alright but I can't stand by knowing what might happen next. Should I call the police myself? My family keeps telling me to leave it alone but how can I? This is my sister and I want to protect her. Any advice will be well appreciated.
2007-03-03 08:45:16 · 17 answers · asked by Chelle's Belle 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Get her out of there now...kidnap her if you have to...call the police and have him arrested...move her out and change your phone number make sure there is a restarining order in affect!!!!!!
2007-03-03 08:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police. In more then half of spouse abuse cases the spouse being abused ends up dead.
If you care for your sister and her children get them out of there and contact the police. If he is hitting your sister what is to stop him from hitting the children? Hitting a woman so far into pregnancy can be considered attempted murder for the baby.
Think about it, do you really want to bury your sister? They had a case in my town where a woman stayed with her husband who abused her and they had a 2 year old son and she was 8 months pregnant with the daughter and there was never any abuse towards the 2 year old. Family tried to get her to leave but she refused because she said she took a vowel when she married him and thought the abuse would eventually stop and said the only way she would leave is if he started abusing the son, you know where her family is now? She is dead along with both her children, when she was 8 moths pregnant the abusive husband strangled her then put a plastic bag over there 2 year olds head and suffocated him, he is now sitting on death row for all 3 of the murders.
Do you really want to sit back and wait for the police to come knocking on your door telling you your sister and her children are dead? That will be heartbreaking enough but then you and your family will have to live the rest of your life's knowing that you sat back and allowed this to happen.
2007-03-03 10:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull a "Madea" and have her dump a hot pot of oatmeal on his big old head!!! No seriously, call the police and you press charges then. For some reason your sister thinks she deserves this kind of treatment, she needs help before he puts her and the kids 6 ft under, but only she can make the next move. She has to want to be out of that bad situation.
2007-03-03 10:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's called elder abuse and that i'm somewhat advantageous that's a legal. call the police and tell them what you recognize. In California there are regulations in place to dodge this from happening. i don't understand what state you're in, yet i could guess there are comparable regulations. a minimum of you may get him on grand theft expenses, the subject could be if the girl tells the police she willingly gave it to him, then their arms are tied. permit the police look up his record and modern it to the girl. with a bit of luck she would be able to realize it replaced right into a rip-off. If she in any way exhibits signs and symptoms of Alzheimer's, he's in actual hassle with the regulation. solid luck. each and every each and every now and then we sisters pull some bonehead strikes while it is composed of adult men.
2016-10-02 08:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by grimon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing that the police can do until she is ready to press charges. She can just say that you are lying and nothing happens to him. However you can call CPS and tell them that the children are living in an abusive household and they will take them from the home. If any of your family says anything negative to you just stand your ground you are trying to save lives , if your sister is stupid enough to risk her life for a man than that is her choice, but someone needs to stand up for those children because they do not choose to be the victims of her stupidity.
2007-03-03 08:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lord yes child call the police right now, at this point you do need to step into her business with ther being pregnant and all. It is so sad when women have to go through this so she really needs you to be there for her. It might be a good idea to get a counselor to talk to her too, because it may not go too smooth. Your sister may think she can handle it as long as he stays to support her or for her not to be lonely. She may somehow think she loves him and you need to prove to her somehow that love doesnt involve beating in no way shape or form. Good Luck to you
2007-03-03 08:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by charityislove 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call the police!!! If not for her for the poor baby in her belly. You will feel bad for not doing anything when she loses the baby to this ***-hole, or if she ends up dying from falling down the stairs and hitting her head.
2007-03-03 08:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report it immediately. There are children involved. Do it for the kids above anything. You have every right to get involved and those children have every right to be protected. He could end up killing her and where would that leave the children? Scarred for life with no mother. So, do you really think its right, to just let it go? I think not.
2007-03-03 09:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've GOT to consider the baby. If she stays with him and she has the baby, he will lose his temper with it and probably kill it.
If you don't do something RIGHT NOW you'll look back on your tiny nieces/nephews murder and WISH TO GOD you'd done something to get her out of there, no matter how extreme.
Babies can grate on anybody's nerves when they scream non-stop, think of what he would do to it.
If you leave it be, you better pray that he suddenly turns his life around (unlikely) and is a fantastic boyfriend/father.
JUST GO DO SOMETHING. PLEASE...........
2007-03-03 09:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Welshdragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You can take a cow to the water but you can't make it drink"This is an unfortunate situation that your sister is in but you can't force help on her she has to want it for herself.You can talk to her until she is blue in the face but if she doesn't want to listen you can't really do anything.If you called the police that might make it worse.but should you?only you can answer that.When she gets tired of getting the stuffing beat out of her trust me she will do something about it.But you can't really do anything for her this is her battle that she has to fight.Pray about it and let it go.She knows the steps she can take if she wanted to get out of it.But what I would advise it get those children out of there if you can.God Bless
2007-03-03 09:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the cops on that bastard. You can't just stand by and let your sister stay with that @$$hole. Call the cops, report to Social Services, Do something! You need to save your sister!
2007-03-03 08:55:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋