She & I were together when I purchased the cell phones with a family plan. I don't mind paying for it but I do expect them to answer when I do call. I don't call maybe 4 Xs a month if that. But honestly, it breaks my heart when this daughter is rude and insensitive I just cry because I don't know how to respond. Should I cancel her phone & put a change of address on her mail? Its getting too hard to bare, especially when other family members tell me my kids are selfish & are leaches. Sound advice would be appreciated. Thanks...
2007-03-03 08:07:55 · 9 answers · asked by Fey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just wanted to add that I recamend my kids use this address until they get settled on their own. She's moved in with someone I think will be permanent now, after today's incident her mail can now be forwarded from now on. I just hate to have these rifts with my kids. :(
2007-03-03 08:25:33 · update #1
it sounds to me like she is counting on you not to do anything and since you have let her take advantage of you in the past she thinks that this is acceptable behavior . you know the old saying that we teach people how we ourselves want to be treated well by helping her out so much you created a situation where she is always going to take advantage of you if you want to have a real relationship with your daughter then at the age of 27 stop being her mommy and start being a mom tell her that you deserve respect and she will start giving it to you let her stand up and be the adult and then maybe she will realize that you have went above and beyond the duties of being a good mother . and hopefully she will apologize to you too if other family members are telling you that your kids are not very nice then step completly back and let them fall on their behinds and what ever you do do not pick them back up let them do it them selves I know it will be hard but you need to say eanough is eanough stop letting them take advantage of you you are better than that and deserve better from your kids
2007-03-03 09:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well I have a 13 year old son and he has everything and the worst thing I could have ever got him was an x-box, that's all he cares about and it gets taken away quite often because he is disrespectful and not responsible of other things. Now in your case your daughter is alot older and one thing I hate to tole rte is disrespect. I don't think you should cancel or make any changes on the address, what I think is she got upset so just try and ignore it and don't call her. She will feel bad and end up calling you, maybe she was just having a bad day and you were the first one to take it out on and us mothers we get the worst of disrespect. So anyhow when she does call, hopefully with an apology you can talk to her then about the way that she treated you but if you try and keep calling things with just get worse. I know I'm 33 and my mom is 62 we go through this getting mad at each other to.
Well good luck and take care.
2007-03-03 16:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is time for you to get up off the floor and stop being a door mat, cancel the plan and send back her mail after you advise her that she needs to pay to have her address changed and she has a week to do it as no More of her mail will be coming to your address it will be returned as moved address unknown, If your kids use you they are doing it with your permission, so stop and learn to say NO
2007-03-03 16:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone needs to take the nipple out of the childs mouth!!!!! A little help here and there is ok but paying her bills?? You are not respected obviously so why do you still continue to be so dam nice....shut off her phone, forward her mail, when she gets a tatse to the real world she will be thankful she has you to help her!!!!
I am 27 years old and yes my mom helps me out a little here and there but she does not pay my bills...I have a full time job and 3 kids....I take care of me and my kids by myself...I couldn't imagine at 27 yeas of age counting on my mommy to do things for me!!!!
2007-03-03 16:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been paying for my own stuff since i was 18! My mom has helped me out here and there, and I have been very appreciative and thankful. She is 27 and old enough to pay for her own stuff. You should cancel the phone and even if she gets mad, tell your daughter it is her own fault for being such a selfish brat at 27. You are doing her a favor and she is acting like it is such a chore to answer a phone call.
2007-03-03 16:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a 27 year old needs to pay for their own cell phone. Why would you put a change of address on her mail though? If it's still coming to your house, then yes, change it to her current address.
2007-03-03 16:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hugs* sorry to hear this. perhaps try changing the subject of your conversations? (not sure what your conversations are about exactly...) don't call to nag or ask a million questions. call just to say hello and keep in touch. if other family members are seeing this and actually talking about it, then maybe its time for a reality check. start off by cutting off her phone and cut off all financial ties and support for them all. maybe that'll change their ways. TOUGH LOVE.
2007-03-03 16:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by justasmile79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are giving her too much, but it also sounds like you are expecting too much from her. Just because you buy things for her doesn't give you the right to expect her full attention at all times.........she is an adult..........let her be one!
2007-03-03 16:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by citygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punch her in the face.
2007-03-03 16:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋