my boyfriend thinks its time that we make love, not that i dont want to its just that i'm not good at handle pain, and i'm scared that when he get what he wants he might treat me different or want it every other day?.so many time we tryed it and i stoped him i dont want my relationship to end just b/c i'm not ready yet? what should i do? i really want to but when it comes down to everything off and him entering i get scared and start to breath very heavy, its hard for me to relax i think soo much i try to stop myself but cant?how do i handle this sitution? pleaz help
2007-03-03 08:07:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would advise you to wait until you're married
2007-03-03 08:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure if you are ready to go all the way then you are.
Plan and simple you are not ready.
Give yourself more time and if he is not willing to wait then he is the reason you are not ready.
When the time is right you will know and yes it will hurt but it wont be so bad you can't handle it.
Your first time will not be like in a porno movie you must take your time and go slow and tell him he has to be gentle and respectful to you.
Also unless you're over seventeen you should wait. You will feel better about yourself if you are too young you may not have the experience to choose the right guy.
2007-03-03 08:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Wraith53089 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but first and most important, don't ever let anyone, and I mean anyone, pressure you for any reason to have sex. Some men after they get it, knowing it took so long, will leave you once they got want they wanted. Never be afraid of losing a guy if you don't give him sex, no matter how long it takes. If he can't be patient till you are ready, he isn't the right guy. It is special your first time, you don't realize that now but once you give up your virginity, you can never get it back, it should be with someone you love and want to be with.
2007-03-03 08:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Already when you said that your bf "thinks" it's time to "make love" I can tell that both of you aren't ready. Also if you tried so many times already and you just get scarred that's another reason not to as well if your not even enjoying it or relaxed enough.Talk to him about it. If he leaves bcs you don't want to then you already know he was gonna leave if he you gave it up to him so you save yourself from a bigger hurt. But you do really need to talk to him bcs you can tell your not ready. Good Luck!
2007-03-03 08:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you aren't ready. When you are ready, you should try the female superior position(girl on top). This will give you more control and allow you to decide how deep and how fast you go. If it begins to hurt, you can slow down or raise up a little.
2007-03-03 08:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Raul D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweete..If you're not ready to do it...DONT DO IT. You're first time should be amazing and stress-less. If you're boyfriend is forcing you to do it, kick him to the curb! Let him go find a **** or something. You're virginity is worth too much to just give away to some thirsty a** little boy. Also, i have heard that the first time hurts when you go fast. Take your time, and don't rush into things. Hope i have helped :)
2007-03-03 08:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by colorfulgarden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are not ready yet....emotionally or physically... you need to tell him this, and if he loves you (which he better if he's thinking about sex), than he'll understand... if your relationship ends because you aren't having sex, than your better off with someone that will respect you/
2007-03-03 08:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-03 08:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait
2007-03-03 08:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by mars101_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋