I was "snooping" in my sisters myspace, whom is 13, and she wrote an email to a friend that moved away. They was talking about how they changed. My sister said nothing much changed except that she is bisexual and she dated this girl. This girl has been coming to her house. God knows what goes on when my mother goes to sleep. How do i confront her about this without ruining her trust... I DID SNOOP...
2007-03-03 08:03:13 · 14 answers · asked by Meshelle H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think it's a problem at all if she's bisexual. I would accept it 100% if it was my sister. Anyways, I am very liberal and hate our president b/c of the way he tries to treat people that aren't totally heterosexual.
2007-03-03 18:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Zack H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you are informed, that on it's own is good thing but as to whether or not you have to do something about is another thing. One thing for sure is that it won't be fun letting your sister know you have been snooping on her. I would avoid that route as much as possible. I suggest you start the discussion as one who is looking for advise for your personal benefit. Let her be the one telling you how you can deal with a bisexual proposal (I am assuming you are younger than her.
Confrontation will only make her be more resolved in it, especially if she is younger than you. If you are a guy/brother, then that adds a new twist to the case. You have to consider a lot things before bringing up the matter. How open to each other are about personal issues? How close are you to her? What is the age gap between you 2?
Regardless of all the possible prevailing foregoing prevailing conditions, you can not go wrong if approach the matter from a general discussion view, more as if you are the one who need info. This will get her thinking and to reflect on her bisexual relationship. It might take more than one session. At another time you start the discussion in the presence of your mum, i.e, if you are very close to her both of you, or else she will clump up.
Best wishes
2007-03-03 08:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Life Dynamics 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if that is your sister and you love her unconditionally then there is nothing to deal with... U should accept her no matter who she likes or whatever... if u didnt wanna know then you shouldnt have been snooping on her myspace page. and at the same time if it was something that she wanted you or anybody else to know for that matter i am sure that she would have told you. and lastly, she is 13 which means that this could be just a phase. so whatever you decide to say about the subject should be encouraging and not demeaning or anything of that nature
2007-03-03 09:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by cash money 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
come on, WHAT illegal or deadly can go on when your mother sleeps? The fact that she's bisexual doesn't make her different from what she was before you found out that. And, this can be only a phase in her life, maybe in a few years she'll find a guy and marry him happily, and, if it's not a phase, being bisexual is not a crime, and you cannot blame your sister for being what she is. Love her and support her, that's what's what should be done in this case.
2007-03-03 08:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by justsogirl 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can deal with it by accepting that your sister's sexual choices are none of your business. You are her sister, not her parent.
You cannot confront her about it without ruining her trust. And why do you assume that she is doing dastardly things while your mother sleeps? Is she sleeping with guys at 13, or just kissing them? Perhaps she's just kissing the girl she's dating. Unless you found graphic descriptions, don't jump to conclusions.
2007-03-03 09:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by romipenne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to deal with anything. She is still your sister, she is the same person she was before you found out. That is her personal life and trust me on this we dont like or dislike people based on who they sleep with (unless is a cheating partner). We respect people for who they are. Whatever happens in the intimacy of their rooms/houses is none of our business, incluiding family.
PS how would you like someone snooping on you?
-love your sister and show her you are not an ignorant, judgemental homophobic. that way she will come to you when she needs to.
2007-03-03 08:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by nyenelra 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well i mean it is bad that u snooped and if u didnt snoop u wouldnt of known anything. But that is something i would be concerned about if i found out ma sister was bisexual. I think you should sit down wit ur sister or bring out of thin air that u think something has been different about her and see if she wants to talk or see if she tells you. That way it wont absolutely come out that u snooped through her stuff.
2007-03-03 08:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lala 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You did snoop... but sometimes that's not a bad thing. At 13 though, just be thankful she's not doing drugs. At that age most kids experiment. I'm sure she' just experimenting. If not, then you will have to accept that your sister is gay. It's a part of our culture now.
2007-03-03 08:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by Alex W 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Apalogize for snooping, but accept the fact that she is Bisexual. You'll get used to it as the years go by, and it does happen. Good luck
2007-03-03 08:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by IcanHelpyou:) 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
help your sister and love her for who she is. this may no longer be a "area". she will manage to desire you and your help more suitable than something. maximum of all no count number number what she continues to be your sister and it truly would not count number number who she is with she's family members
2016-12-05 04:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋