We have a daughter together, but I don't think that I love her.
2007-03-03 08:02:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell her that. I mean, as best as you can. Do you love your daughter? I hope you do! Anyway, my bro was in the same situation. He bought her a ring and everything, they started planning the wedding and then he cheated on her, and left her. Sad. I know. But he DIDN"T love her. He should have told her that when she asked but he didn't have any BALLS then. But, save her the heartache and tell her you don't think that will happen. Break up, but make sure you are there for your daughter.
2007-03-03 08:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well don't you think you should have thought of that before you planted your sperm to make a child? Now you don't think you love her?. Boy, you are cruel. You owe this girl something, some love, loyalty for giving you a daughter and for loving you. That is so selfish of you. You should think of all her good qualities, that she loves you and wants to spend the rest of her life with you, and you daughter who I hope you love. If you leave her, you will destroy a family unit and hurt your daughter and your girlfriend. Why don't you grow up and act like a man and take some responsibility and really be a husband and father. Marry the girl and be a family man.
2007-03-03 11:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her, then don't marry her. It is never a good idea to marry for the child's sake. If you don't love her, it will make you unhappy in the long run and your child will pick up on that. Keeping a marriage together is hard enough as it is even when you do love each other.
Why is she your girlfriend if you don't love her? Does she know that you don't love her? If she doesn't, you need to tell her because she has the right to know. She mighn't be interested in marrying a man who doesn't love her anyway.
2007-03-03 08:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Safiya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there were lots of good answers on here already. One thing I know about love is that it is a commitment, not just a feeling.
It already sounds like you are committed to her and the child.
How do you know you don't love her? Is she good to you? Is she good for you?
No, you shouldnt marry her just because you have a child together. But if she wants to get married and you don't what are you still doing dating her? If she wants to be marrried, to have that traditional husband/wife thing, then you need to be honest about your intentions so she can move on and find what she wants with someone else.
But then again, maybe you do love her. Look deep inside yourself. And remember love is more than a feeling.
2007-03-03 09:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by goodgirl_undercover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone for the sake of a child is not a good reason for getting married, but neither is love....it has to go deeper than love--it's a deep seated mutual respect and friendship and honesty and desire to spend the rest of your lives together, no matter what happens, and forsaking all others...if you are not ready or know deep down she is not the person for you, better to break her heart now than lead her on...hopefully someday she will respect you for making the decision, but be honest
2007-03-03 08:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a daughter together... but that is NO reason to marry her if you don't love her. Maybe you need to figure out what you want...
2007-03-03 08:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course DO NOT MARRY HER then if you dont love her just because you have a child together does not mean you have to do that. If things dont work out you and her will be putting that little girl through things you dont need too.
2007-03-03 08:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by TOOTS0822 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't do it. You will be unhappy and regret it for the rest of your life. A kid is not a good enough reason to marry someone. Your child can still grow up "normal" if you guys are both an active part of her life.
2007-03-03 08:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure if you love her, than marriage is a bad idea. Never marry just for the sake of a child. Since you don't love her, you will eventually divorce, and that will be harder on the child!
2007-03-03 08:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by citygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW you're an A SS! Then tell her you dont love her and end the relationship or get over yourself and marry her. If you dont marry her the relationship is probably over, if she is smart. And keep your junk in your pants instead of getting women you dont care about pregnant!
2007-03-03 09:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋