well, i'm 16 and had sex three months ago for the first time with my boyfriend.when i broke up with him two weeks ago, i was really depressed and my best friend matthew came over to cheer me up.that's when it all happened.he was a virgin and i knew it and i also knew that he couldn't stand the fact that i had lost my virginity before he did.i needed love so i asked him to sleep with me and he immadiately said yes so we did it.i thought we could just pretend nothing happened and go back to being best friends but i guess now he's in love with me!!!wut should i do???
2007-03-03 07:37:24 · 19 answers · asked by kwlcmmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just talked to a close friend of his and he said that matty has always been in love with me!!!is this getting worse or what?
2007-03-03 09:23:57 · update #1
Do it some more
2007-03-03 07:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
First off, don't have sex anymore until you're married. You've proved that you're not mature enough to handle it by the mess you've made for poor Matthew.
Second, you and Matthew aren't best friends anymore. You're lovers. You're going to have to decide if you're going to continue to be lovers or be ex-lovers. But, you're not friends anymore. You blew that.
Third, you need to be honest with him about the fact that you only used him to make yourself feel better. It wasn't love that you used him for because love is not a one night stand. It probably won't stop a 16 year old boy from wanting to have sex with you again but, maybe he'll learn a little something in life about being used.
Last, write this down in your journal, make a note of it on your blog, put it in the back of your head or wherever you keep memories. You CAN NOT have sex with someone and then hope it just goes away. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN. And you need to respect yourself more than that.
2007-03-03 07:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by penhead72 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well... you should see if there is something more there- if not, and if you can't be friends anymore, tell him that he should see other girls before making a final decision youre only sixteen. you have not seen half the world yet, so he is probably only infatuated by you- i mean- you were his first time! give it some time and tell him you need to think this over. if he really loves you, he will respect your choice. he's not an addict now, is he?
2007-03-03 07:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♥LittleMissKnowItAll♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is my best friend. enough said?
If not , how do you feel about him? Do you have feelings for him? if not you need to set down and talk to him NOW b/4 you lose a friend and a lover.
If you do have feelings for him be glad you found someone who is also a friend.
The last piece of advise I'll give you speaking as a dog who now stays on the porch. You'll always find someone who will gladly lay down with you, but seldom will you find someone to stand with you.
Hope this helps, holler if you need me
2007-03-03 07:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bigger question here is do you like him? If you do then that is great as him to be your bf and then things will all just fall into place. Ifyoudon't like him in the way that he likes you then you should tell him and say I think that you like me but U am sorry I don;t like you that way. Then tell him you wanna just be friends. Hope this helps
2007-03-03 07:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by morgw2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that he is and always will be a good friend and that he gave you just what you needed at that moment in time, and if that's not enough for him, then he's not a good friend at all and was trying to take advantage of you. Friends can be friends, and friends can ****, but it gets tough when friends are in love, just remember he is your friend and let him down easy.
2007-03-03 11:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you love your bestfriend? if you do then its a good match. But if you dont then tell him you dont feel the same way. Just be nice and try your best to make him understand
2007-03-03 07:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by honeyy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being in love with your best friend. I mean, I am not saying you have to love him, I am just saying that you don't have to hold back just because you are friends with him.
2007-03-03 07:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Telemann 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
lol well since the fact that you had sex with him. and your 16 why are you having sex so young. I'm 16 too but i want to wait for that special someone or marriage. well your in a big mess since the fact you slept with him. try and talk to him and let him know the truth and how you feel.
2007-03-03 07:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Actually date him for a while, whether your attracted to him or not, and then see if it could become something more. You owe it to yourself to give it a shot, if nothing real is there, then at least you know you tried
2007-03-03 07:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Einsteininium 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Now you are on a wrong path, sleeping with guys. you need to think smart, you have a lot to lose. So what you need to do in concentrate on your school work, and that is what you need to tell him, that right now school is important to me, and that I hope that we can just remain friends.
2007-03-03 07:43:10 · answer #11 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋