My paretns were always strict, controlling my life and school. They have money problems, and it will get worse in a few years. My dad use to be abusive to my mom in her 20s., and we ddint spent much time when i was 1-5.
This month, my dad was making smart remarks at me. I would ask him something, and he would say "too bad you arent smart to do that" Stuff like that. Its annoying. Just today, I heard my parents talking - saying how he is sick of me and doesnt want me around. To me, he acts like everything is fine. I dont even see him, only for 10mins a day, and 6 hrs on the weekend! (cause of his job) im not talking to him. Im confused why hes like that. I dont get in trouble, i do well in school, i dont ask them for stuff often and i listen to them!!! What else does he want!!!!!?
2007-03-03 07:24:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I cant go anywhere, im not planning to run away im only 16! and my mom wont say much. shes on my dads side cause if she doesnt agree with him, he gets angry and cusses
2007-03-03 07:32:32 · update #1
No, he wasnt drunk or anything when he said that
2007-03-03 07:39:18 · update #2
Have a talk with your mother. Your father could be having problems you don't know about.
2007-03-03 07:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame that Mom's and Dad's can act so... well darned human! they should be our hero's. Often they fail... they aren't supposed to be human are they. well maybe they are.... but what they REALLY aren't supposed to be is childish. sounds like Dad is having regrets from his choices in life. perhaps he didn't get to have the fun he thinks he should have had... who knows.and you know what? it doesn't matter. maybe your a good kid. Maybe not. Maybe he's a good father and just struggling, maybe not. the point is, YOU! your somebody! your not a nobody. The single worst thing a parent can tell a child is that they are a nothing, a nobody, worthless. that you are less then smart. hey, you know your smart. You know you get good grades! so remember, YOU ARE NOT A LOSER! You are somebody! be the best you can be. LOVE YOUR DAD! even if you have to do it in spite of yourself. Love your father and mother! it's a choice to love. not something you fall into. It's somethin you will be happier if you do. and Remember you are not a nobody. You are a smart intelligent young person. It could be worse! Your dad could where tights and a cape for a living! My 14 year old daughter has that for an issue. (he does it to teach kids and entertain them, don't worry he's not crazy) Talk to your Pastor or youth leader. A trusted teacher. they will all tell you the same thing.
-Pastor Rob
2007-03-03 07:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Robert S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up trying to please this unpleaseable man. It's like you're trying to fill the grand canyon with a squirt gun. Why is he like that? He's a sick person, the kind of sick person that would last maybe 10 seconds around someone like me. I don't think understanding this person will get you anywhere, but what you need to focus on is finding a way to grow an mature in a healthy way. Working too much and demeaning a daughter is not the way a MAN treats his family. So when you start looking to settle down, keep in mind that your family life is not normal and should not be tolerated. Men like your dad need to be avoided, sadly. You may ultimately need counseling to live a balanced life.
2007-03-03 07:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're hurting a lot. you want to talk over with someone. I had truly some similar arguments with my dad as i became turning out to be up. attempt to jot down a letter. heavily. sit and start up by technique of affirming that you will be very trustworthy and that that is the in reality way you are able to convey your self. Then income this. tell him the way you experience, write down the examples of what he does and how you experience. enable him understand now. do not supply up. on your sake. tell him the way you've got favored if he informed you about his lady friend. etc. listen i understand how this feels. even inspite of the truth that my father and mom were jointly my dad did not look to have truly some recognize for me. a minimum of it truly is how I felt. My dad only gave up the ghost on March 2, 2008. a week before he exceeded he particularly spoke to me the way i wanted he could've spoken to me as i became turning out to be up. i'm grateful for that. so that you nonetheless have a threat to artwork issues out along with your dad. i wish that issues get more suitable positive and that you will manage to talk. Oh and once you write the letter placed it in an envelope and hand it to him on his thanks to artwork or something. wish this enables.
2016-12-05 04:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he intoxicated when he was saying these things?
Often times we hear things when we walk in a middle of a conversation. You should ask your MOM. Let her clarify for you.
Parents are often time strict because of society.
Money is always a problem even in the wealthiest household.
Unhappiness is a problem in EVERY household.
Read a happy book; watch a silly/funny/ movie; write a letter (to your dad); write to a childhood friend you haven't heard from in a bit.
Have fun with YOUR life.
2007-03-03 07:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by S.N. C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He wants some gratitude from you and your mother. He obviously works very hard and long hours. It's obviously stressful. He provides for you and your mom while having to sacrifice the rest of his life, and probably has had to for a long time. You (and probably your mom) repay him by concentrating on what you don't have and get from him, rather than what you do get. You (you and mom) probably have done so for awhile and it shows and builds up over time into resentment on his part.
People who get treated rudely by others tend to treat them rudely back, eventually, which is what you are getting from him.
Additional: I'm not saying I approve of his making those remarks. I'm just offering up the most likely explanation.
2007-03-03 07:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is jealous of you, he wishes he was as smart and good as you. Ignore his comments and succeed in life. Nothing will prove him more wrong then getting good marks and a good job. Showing him that you don't need him will frustrtae him, he knows you don't need him that is why he is playing with your mind. If you treat his comments like you don'y care he will try harder to annoy you before he gives up when he realises you don't need him.
2007-03-03 07:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry your having to grow up in a family like this. Some parents are toxic and your dad is. he should never of been a father. he sounds like hes mentally abusive to you.Do your best graduate and get a good job and move out its all you can do.
2007-03-03 07:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure it's nothing to do with you, it just seems like he has major control issues and it's ashame you had to stay in that situation. I would never let a man talk to my child like that. You are better than him and just remember that when you get out on your own.
2007-03-03 07:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Nette 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just pray to God. I'll pray for you. Do you want me to send you some magazine articles? Try to talk to them. If he puts his hands on you, tell him you'll have a black man kick his tail. (just joking)
2007-03-03 07:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋