What should a girl do when she loves a boy who won't commit to the relationship even after 4 years?

Answer 1

If he wont commit after four years without any reasons, girl, leave him fast.

Do you want to be 50yrs before you realise he doesnt want any committment?

Leave him. Sometimes the heart doesnt have to do the thinking, the head does.

Maybe he's not so serious about you.
Don't waste your time for time to pass you by.
Time and tide waits for no one.

Answer 2

Now that you know he has serious issues around committing to you. Start dating and give yourself and your heart a chance to find that person who will love you back the way you love this man with a hole in is soul/heart. Chances are you will meet the right man for you and he will have you so in love with him that this guy your loving now won't be but a memory from a long long time ago. When he sees he lost a good thing and you have moved on don't be surprised if he shows back up just when you got over the pain of him and moved on. Guys always want what they can't have. It's like this "don't know what you got till its gone "old school song). Just know this.......you haven't failed at the love/relationship game take it as a lesson. Take what you have learned over the 4 years and use it as a tool you will need for your search for Mr.Right. Yes it will be painful in the worst way. Trust me when I say it will go away and you won't die even though you wish you would just so you don't have to feel that kind of pain. Be strong Chica.. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
THE SHORT VERSION: Dump the boy and for a man. If your (18+) U must be. If not totally ignore the short version

Answer 3

Not to sound like a cliche but let that person go. It is obvious that after. 4 years he is not going to commit. He has become complacent and gotten use to just having you around whenever he needs. You need to give him an ultimatium. Eithr commit or you are gone. More than likely this will get him to thinking. Let him go if he comes back then it was meant to be.

Answer 4

I don't think there's much that girl can do. She can't force him to commit to her if he doesn't mean to. But if she loves him and wants to wait until he feels ready is up to her. I personally think 4 years is good enough to commit to someone. She can probably try to talk to him about this, maybe his just afraid to take that step.

Answer 5

Move On!! There are Way TOO many guys out in the world for you. This may be a the reason why this is happening. There is the perfect (well next to perfect) one out there for you and it does not sound like it is him.But I do think you should still be friends.

This is just my thinking of the matter.

Answer 6

Simple, leave.

Are you going to wait until you're past your prime, and realize he's not the one, and miss out on all the other great guys who could've committed in a heartbeat to your wellbeing?

Answer 7

You don't have to break up, but make it clear to him that you two need to spend time apart to re-evaluate the relaitionship. Take time to clear your mind, and renew yourself. He may notice that being without you isn't fun at all, and he'll want to commit!

Answer 8

look for another one to love ,who will want a relationship
plenty of boys around

Answer 9

4 years? I'd say that was a lengthy relationship.

Answer 10

HE HAS MADE HIS MIND UP. NOW YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT HE DOES NOT WANT A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.

THEN YOU DECIDE IF YOU CAN LIVE WITH THAT AND STAY IN THAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM OR DUMP HIM AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

FROM EXPERIENCE...I TRUSTED GOD TO BRING ME THE PERSON HE HAD FOR ME AND HE GAVE ME A MAN THAT IS BEYOND THE BEST FOR ME AND GOOD TO ME.

BEST WISHES TO YOU