Well I ask him a question and he usually will say "you tell me" so I have to tell him first I feel like he just wants to find out what I want so I get it. But I want to know what he wants. I try telling him to tell me and he still doesn't and I feel like he doesn't tell me stuff how do I get him to open up to me?
2007-03-03 07:12:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just set this rule: "whomever ask the question first , get the answe fisrt"
2007-03-03 07:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Jordan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do what you are doing here, let him know how you feel. Tell him you want to know how he feels and what he wants. Communication is very important in a relationship. If things don't change you are going to have to decide if you want to continue on with him never sharing his feelings or if you want more.
2007-03-03 07:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tracie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not very good communicators. Some of us tend not to talk about certain subjects in order to avoid an argument if we feel that what we have to say may lead to one. Just be patient, he'll open up one day, but you have to let him know he can trust you with his thoughts and feelings. I hope that helps
2007-03-03 07:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really hard, i would say that if he isnt will to open up maybe there's something wrong. You could always go with 'no i asked you first' and not give him an answer. Or dont pry? it may take awhile for him to feel comfortable.
2007-03-03 07:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make anyone talk. if he doesnt tell you stuff and that bothers you then yall probably arent meant to be!! if he is not telling you stuff then that probably means that he isnt comfortable with telling you, which doesnt sound like to good of a relationship!
2007-03-03 07:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get off his case. men are not into telling how they feel. it is that simple, and why do you need to know what he wants, if it is to please him do not even go there, The answer is treat him the way you want to be treated.He is not hiding any thing, he is just not good at expressing his emotions, its a guy thing. and all you are becoming is a nag, and if you want to keep him them keep you questions about how do you feel, to your self.
2007-03-03 07:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that he is so much in love with you that your needs come first. or he is to shy to express his wants, or maybe he is inexperienced and lacks confidence. just tell him "today YOU decide what we do, YOU are the MAN". if he still doesnt get it... maybe you should think about finding someone else, you wouldnt want to spend your life with a chicken
2007-03-03 08:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by zeke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be quiet. Most men will gladly talk while you are doing something together (like a project or the dishes) and you are not talking or asking questions.
2007-03-03 07:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by TBAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him drunk, then ask him, "Samson, what is the secret of thy great strength?"
Then, give him a haircut when he passes out.
If that doesn't work, both Scopolamine and Sodium Pentothal have some reputation as "truth serums."
2007-03-03 07:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is alot to things. He is more like trying to figure things out, and stuff....he's thinking, and im sure he doesn't want to open up to you yet. he may and may not have something to say that can hurt you. Idk.
2007-03-03 07:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋