Some kids will just have to learn the hard way, despite your pleas as a parent to get them to striaghten up? Any of you see your kids heading down that path? My 8 year old is like that, I want to see am I the only one who suffers from this?
2007-03-03 07:03:09 · 7 answers · asked by Nyema 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Have you tried taking him to the jail for a "tour"? And also, I agree with you that they need to learn on their own, but if it came down to where they were doing things that could get them killed, I would call cops, counselors, anything to help him see what he was doing could kill him.
2007-03-03 07:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Please correct your grammar. "Some kids are going to be bad and not listen well."
I don't believe that statement. Sounds like you are throwing in the towel. Why don't you try positive change instead? Talk to your son in a respectful way, including voice tone, so that he will listen and listen attentively to him so he will talk. Give him feedback. Look him straight in the eye. Even when you are setting rules and limits you need to watch your voice tone-keep it even and firm. nO yelling. He would feed offf of that.
You also have to understand different developmental stages of children. Your son is trying to assert himself. Be a role model for him and show him appropriate ways to assert himself.
Spend quality time with him. This means have one to one bonding time. There's a special person deep down inside with many strengths. Focus on his strengths. Don't focus on the negative. Take him out more. Get him involved in activities according to his interests.
It's time to break out of the negative cycle. Do it NOW.
Chelebee, that's like using a sledgehammer to "solve" the problem when a screwdriver alone would do the trick.
2007-03-04 11:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
So sorry love I can't agree with you. There is no such thing as an inherently bad kid. Just kids that learn how to run over and around their parents. Strip his little world to a bare empty bedroom and let him earn it all back with good behavior. Remember they are little sponges from birth waiting to learn. Somewhere early on he learned listening to you was an option. Fix it now before it is too late.
2007-03-03 15:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think kids are the problem here I think it';s the parent. You want him to do only what you say when you say failing to realize an 8 year old is not a young child and children that age have opinions, strong likes and dislikes, and absolutley no 8 year old does everything you want when you want. I don't much have to say much to my 8 year old, he already know what is expected of him. Maybe you and your son need conceling ..
2007-03-03 15:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some children do not seem to have the potential to be 'bad' kids, regardless of parenting.
The majority, however, will go one way or the other based on what the parents do. If you parent your kids properly they will be at least manageable, if not wonderful.
2007-03-03 15:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are just going to take more work, but the rules shouldn't be different for any of them. They break the rule, enforce the consequence. Even if your doing it 10X a day.
Good Luck
2007-03-04 04:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i don't think that children are just born this way, unless they have a disorder such as ADD or ADHD. children who do not listen and are bad have been shown that it is ok to do these things because they are not disciplined.
2007-03-03 15:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋