I recently split up with my bf because he had issues he needed to work through.We had been together a long time,but had a break once,where he dated girl A before we got back together,and were really happy.so he promised he would work through his issues,and i said i would help him as a friend,then if he sorted them we might consider a future together later on.So that night after he left,he got steaming drunk with girl A(from the break) and slept in a bed with her although he swears nothing happened.But it's the principle of what he did,and i dont even want to consider helping him through anything,never mind a future together.Now he's spending all his time with girl A and her friends,even though all he wants is to be back with me etc.Well it's never going to happen.Do you think i am being too harsh or am i right in being angry over what he did?
2007-03-03 06:46:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be angry. I wouldn't believe that they didn't "do anything" while they slept in the same bed. It's time for you time find someone else. You don't need a guy who goes out and gets drunk.
2007-03-03 06:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm properly, being that i'm going into my third year of faculty and that i'm pregnant with #2 i could say that's a foul thought. are not getting me incorrect i admire my son and that i'll love this new child too and that i'm nevertheless with the father yet stunning now i'm 20 and that i'll turn 21 a pair months in the previous this new child is due and the closer i'm getting to turning 21 the greater i think of roughly the different persons i'm going to fulfill when I bypass away the city I stay in after college and that i'm 21 and that i will certainly bypass out and do issues, clube, etc. no longer that i'll forget my teenagers or something yet i would be unable to help yet think of there is in all hazard somebody accessible that i could be plenty greater advantageous off with and that looking that guy or woman will take commencing throughout the place as though I had basically waited to commence with i could desire to be out doing in spite of i wanted and experiencing existence.
2016-09-30 03:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told him that he has issues he needs to work through and he doesn't agree that he needs to change, he will resent you for telling him he needs to change something about his personality or his life. He will resent that you do not accept him the way that he is. Secondly, read what you wrote first. You said you recently split up. You aren't dating him anymore. What he does with another girl isn't your business really. You are not his girlfriend right now. He is hanging out with this other girl probably because she likes him just the way that he is without any conditions. You are wrong being angry that he is with someone else. You broke up with him. Even if there is a chance of a future, there's no promise that he's going to sit there waiting for you, is there? If he is happy with someone else, then you should be happy for him if you truly care about him.
2007-03-03 06:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay he is right in front of your face making you look stupid and you are questioning yourself on whether or not you are going to be getting back with him....truthfully i think you just need to count him as a loss, and not even be a friend to him. He obviously does not chereish any kind of friendship with you and is definetly not working through any problems that he has. He is always going to have those issues and they are never going to be fixed.....stay away for you own good.
2007-03-03 06:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be upset. What the hell is he doing sleeping with her and being so cozy with her if he supposedly only wants to be with you? Even if you guys aren't technically 'together', the nature of your arrangement suggests that you were just going to take it slow, but try to make it work. He blew off everything by behaving like this.
2007-03-03 06:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing. It's not harsh. Why should you be treated like that? Make a clean break and you'll find someone who can make you happy.
Best wishes
2007-03-03 06:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend never say any girl A or B whatever. It is just the misunderstanding of yours. Only way is to really ask him ? It is just your misunderstanding. I hope u will differentiate between truth and self assumption.
2007-03-03 06:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be angry. Don't get back with him you tried to help but it didn't work. Eventually if you keep helping him he will wear you out and you will become an emotional wreck.
2007-03-03 06:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Shelby N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do find that really wrong if u want a guy who cares about u u wouldnt choose him there r plenty of fish in the sea dont grab the closes guppy
2007-03-03 06:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by bballdawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey may claim not to have did anything but how many guys do you know that would actually get extremely drunk and sleep in a bed with a female and do nothing ..... i doubt that
2007-03-03 06:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by ♡♥ !Ð3ΔL ♡♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋