me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months now and he keeps asking me wen were going to do it n i keep telling him im not ready for it yet and i am still a virgin so he sas do u want me to be ur first n i said i want it to be with the person i get married too is that ok
2007-03-03 06:17:31 · 21 answers · asked by nana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well mayb u should wait since he may just b trying u use u
2007-03-03 06:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by ~ *Amber* ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perfect for you. You only need to be intimate with someone when your ready. 4 months isn't that long of a time especially when we are considering the fact that your a virgin. If you feel that you should be with him sexually then there you go you have your answer. If it doesn't feel right then don't be with him. If he tries to pressure you into it then you shouldn't be with him b/c he doesn't really care for you then. He would want you to be 100 percent ready before anything happened between you guys if he really cared. All you need to do is wait until it feels right. You'll know when your ment to be with someone.. Just trust your self and follow your heart.. *good luck kiddo*
2007-03-03 06:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your whole life a head of you to have sex.
Don't let your boyfriend push you into something your not ready
for. Boys and men think about sex way more than women do.
They arn't all like that, but most are. Just tell him your not ready,
and even if you break up with him don't get upset about it, cause
your doing the right thing by waiting. What if you had sex with
him and than you broke up. You would feel awful. Just wait
until your ready.
2007-03-03 06:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already given him the answer. He just did not want to accept it. Stick to your guns girl. Don't give in. You said that you are not ready. If you do it now, you will only regret it later. He does not sound like the kind of guy that would be there in a few years anyway. Sex is a great thing. Likewise, don't let him push you around and agree to give him something that you cant get back!
2007-03-03 06:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by Josh S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask if it is time for you to "do it", then the answer is no, it's not. Do not let him pressure you into it. If you do, it will just be sex for him and you think it will be love for you and it won't. Most likely, not too long after you give in, he will break up with you. You will then think that every person you sleep with will be "the one" and it won't. Wait until you're older and are more in control of your emotions and who you are. Neither of you sounds as if you are mature enough to handle a sexual relationship and the emotional and physical responsibility that goes along with it. Good luck.
2007-03-03 06:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its ok for a girl to keep her virginity until marriage. if ur boyfriend really cares about you, he wouldn't be persistent about u guys going to bed. if u have sex with him, it would be of no use becos he is not going to be the guy u are going to get married to in the future. if he is not happy about u guys waiting, u will know that he only wants u for ur body and not ur love. it is better to be with a guy who has the same opinions about things the same way u do, and is very understanding about things. I hope i have been of help to you
2007-03-03 06:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by omo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think maybe he is just using you and once yall do it,as you put it. He will probley leave you my guess is you should find someone way better. if he really loved you he would respect the fact that your just not ready. look dont make the mistake of giving into him. trust me. Wait till your married, if you do this with him just think about how I told you so...But if he's really the one then great but think how he is. sense you didn't tell me more about him or anything I can't really say what you should do but if you think he'll stay with you after you do it wow! think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2007-03-03 06:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever u feel that u are ready then u go for it because u are the 1 who gotta live with it if he leaves u and plays u
2007-03-03 06:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Young boi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should respect you wishes. If he continues to push you towards having sex, he can't be the one. The desire for sex needs to be fully mutual and passionate. You will know when it is the one, whether or not getting married holds you back from having sex, although you may both wish to wait for religious reasons. The desire should nonetheless be overpowering.
2007-03-03 06:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by neils 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats your ages? Sounds like hes a typical male and your going to eventually do something that goes against your better judgement.
2007-03-03 06:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If you have to ask, you're too young.
2. 'saving yourself' for the one you marry is self punishment. Why not learn what you are doing and why limit yourself.
3. You didn't include your age. If you're 15 - wait, if you're 32 - jump in.
2007-03-03 06:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋