Is this ' typical ' temperament of a 14 yr. old son ?

Question

I have two daughters (17 and 20)...my son recently turned 14. I'm peacefully divorced 4 yrs and have shared custody. My kids see both their dad and myself and they're overall fine with both of us...neither his dad or myself are remarried so no step parent issues to deal with.

What are some typical traits of a 14 yr. old boy / young man ? What can I expect out of of him temperment wise for the next few years? When, if, will this temperment trait pass ?

He shares quick answers, behaves brooding, grumpy . . . is this typical ?

What can I do as his mom to get through these times with him?
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"Chelebee"...Thanks for insight. As far as asking my ex-husband what it was like for him at same age. . . While I'm oveall fine with my ex...he is still condensending and rude so I only share the VERY basic of conversations with him...so talking with him about this is not an option.

Answer 1

No answers here-- but watching with interest because I have an almost 12 y/o son!!

Oh-- one thing we do with all of our kids, to foster mutual respect, is speak to them in full sentences, try not to ask yes/no questions all of the time, and expect full-sentence answers when they respond. If TV or a game or book is distracting them from the conversation we're trying to have, they know it will be turned off/taken away until both of our attention is fully on the other. I do this to myself, too-- when they come to me with a question or problem, I get up from the computer, put my book down, turn TV off or whatever to give them my full attention. I think that's working very well for us. HTH!

Answer 2

I have five boys, two are grown. I have a 13 year old and two 11 yr old twins. A lot of changes take place in boys this age. With their hormonal changes, it seems their personality traits are changing too. One thing I said to my two older boys during that time was..."Where'd my nice son go?"....or "What happened to my nice son?" It wasn't until they were much older they told me that me saying that confused them all the more...like they thought..."Who am I changing into, what is happening to me??" I never thought of it that way, so I'm careful I don't say anything like that to my 13 yr old now. I wish someone had told me to just relax...that everything you taught them, and their own unique personality traits don't go away, they just get pushed to the background for awhile before they come back. So, after all this....just be there for him when he needs you to be and everything will be okay.

Answer 3

My son is 13 and sounds the same...short answers and all! They don't want to be treated like a baby anymore but once in awhile i can still get a snuggle watching a movie. Just give him his space but stay alert to failing grades..., fighting...back talk...those are REAL signs of trouble.
Ps. My daughter is 18, and she was hell fron 12 yrs old on. Enjoy the boy they are so much easier!

Answer 4

He sounds totally normal. The best thing you can do it give him space but also making it clear that you are always there for him, and also making it clear that you will not tolerate lying, or unlawful behavior. It's a really tough time for kids that age. I would also talk w/ your ex-husband to make sure you all are on the same page; since he was a boy that age he might also have some suggestions.

Answer 5

I have a 13 yr old son and he has the same behavior. But, it sounds like you have it under control and your are fortunate that your children still have their father in their lives, (mine don't). It's nice to hear that you are peacefully divorced, I an sure that has a great postive influence on your son, as well as your daughters.

Answer 6

Jesus christ! aggravated housebreaking?!!!!!! Do you comprehend how serious it extremely is? housebreaking is getting right into a development as a trespasser and stealing/ attempting to steal/ inflicting GBH/ attempting to reason GBH (s9 robbery Act 1968) aggravated housebreaking is doing the above WITH A WEAPON (s10 robbery Act 1968). in case your son is convicted the optimal he could nicely be jailed for is existence. The likelyhood of him getting existence is, nicely, very not likely. The choose will evaluate his age, no previous convictions and likewise interior the present criminal climate i might wager 5-7 years. thats of course at a youthful offenders reformatory, and Im speculating as to the time. I dont be attentive to any information. the actuality that it somewhat is his first offence is irrelevant till sentencing. So in fact which will have not any baring on the jurys determination. I dont somewhat be attentive to what you decide on, different than to heavily discipline your boy. I havent been by using this, yet i will think of that its incredibly a frightened time for you. Im not likely to sugar coat something, aggravated housebreaking is a great deal. of course for the prosecution to succeed, they'll could desire to proove that your son had a million. entered a development. 2. That he replaced right into a trespasser in that development. 3. That he stole or tried to steal or led to GBH or tried to reason GBH 4. that your son meant to between the above. thankfully (regrettably for society) rationale is an rather complicated element to instruct. and with out any a form of four factors your son would be acquitted. back I dont be attentive to any information so there according to danger an exceptional argument, yet i assume that that's what your criminal expert would be attacking. yet another factor to contemplate is that the burdon of information in a criminal case is 'previous existence like doubt' ie if the jury has any doubt, they could desire to acquit. thinking approximately it on a share scale, the jury could desire to be atleast 80 5-ninety% specific your son is in charge. And in case you have have been given a sturdy criminal expert, that shouldnt be too lots of a situation. So in simple terms loosen up (extra easy stated than finished) and enable justice take its direction. (i'm not a criminal expert, so dont rely TOO heavily on what i've got stated. i'm a regulation pupil in my very final year at uni)

Answer 7

if he is brooding grumpy and behaves badly give him the choice of a good stern boarding home (military academy or detention home") as in the end he will end up in worse trouble if he is left to his own devices.

You already know he has issues. and No it will not pass..
check for drug useage.., booze or drinking?,, is he gay? well, he won't tell you these things..but you have to show some interests in what his friends are like and what he does when you are not around.
At this age he should be studying hard in his school work or getting a part time job to use up all that extra energy..sports are good too...if he is a loner then you have issues that have to be met..anti social behavior starts earlier then four teen

Answer 8

Yeah he's fine. Most 14 year old guys, just need to have their space.