But if you look at it carefully, then when a daughter becomes someones wife she doesn't let the son be a son for life.
Come on you guys, the females always keep cribbing about their mom-in-laws.Don't you think they come with a pre conceived idea that their husband is only theirs and her mom-in-law is her biggest enemy?
2007-03-03 06:01:30 · 14 answers · asked by Santosh S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well Polly you too think mom-in-laws are too change well anyways. Modest i don't come with a pre-conceived notion infact in my house mywife and my mom gel very well, this question came to my mind when i saw saw so many writng about how bad their husbands mom is
2007-03-03 06:14:18 · update #1
WOW !! I have heard that first line many times but that foot note beneath your question has my head spinning.
Your second paragraph question for the guys is so true.
I am disturbed by the many young wives on here who bash Mother-in-laws. The wives display no class what so ever in their name calling and etc. of their husbands Mothers.
I am not in competition with my 3 daughter-in-laws. I have a close bond with each of them. They treat me with utmost respect and call me often. My sons made wise choices. I am blessed.
I have bitten my tongue a lot. Try my best to be the kind of in-law that my in-laws where~~~they where the best~~~~Jill
2007-03-03 06:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friend,
I think you are wrong.It seems ,in your experience you saw a good lot of people and are generalizing now.
It is not so.All daughters are not like that.I agree some will be there.tell me a field where there is everything good, and no bad at all?
They co -exist.But we can't generalize.
My wife looked after my mother as her mother, and we both liked our parents .I was loving my mother-in law and father-in law for their unpolluted love and wisdom.we lived happily .now I am 60 plus.
Basically, if you carefully analyse the problem, the reason for the presense of a situation you said is, 90 percent female contribution only.If a mother trained her daughter well and makes her understand the realities in life and how to live in in-laws home, then half the problems are solved.The other half are to be solved by the husband by his caring behaviour, open talk with his wife, telling what his parents are, how he became what he is now and the sacrifices made by his parents or the problems faced by his parents, how his parents love their daughter-in-law(DIL) and he too must like her parents.,This will make her understand and get acclamatised to new ,hither too unknown, surroundinggs and surely will behave properly and if all are gentle all will be good.
If inspite of whatever good your wife does, your yells like hell, after repeated attemts surely the girl will not like her Mother -in-law nad may hate even.
In human life , a word of appreciation' a pleasant ramark, small gifts(ned not be costly) and open hearted talks surely turn a home into a heavenlike thing.
So you can't blame the GIRL alone......all are partners if the situation turned from good to bad.Analyse you know the person responsible.
Thre are Bad sons and Bad daughters..You can see them , if you observe.
There are good DAUGHTERS and GOOD SONS too....see for yourself.
2007-03-04 23:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Radhakrishna( prrkrishna) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a point. It's really about being the NUMBER 1 woman in the man's life. If a woman is giving herself to you in marriage she wants to be the most important woman/person in your life. It can go both ways. In some cases the mother-in-law views the wife as taking her son away and expects to run his affairs and household like she did before he got married.
2007-03-03 06:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Xena_fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is we generally do not allow some personal space to people in the family, particularly to those who become a family member by marriage and not by birth. We take them for granted. If the kitchen could be separated, I think, half the problem would be solved as in most cases, kitchen is the source of all troubles (in all senses of the term).
2007-03-03 06:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by thinbrownline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah but sometimes the mother in law can actually be cool & not so overbearing so it works out well for every1. some mom in laws just need to back off a bit & not be so pushy and try not to pick apart the sons girl. if mom in law can be like that, son will be a son for life!
2007-03-03 06:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You too seem to have preconcieved ideas about females. Some women think as you say. Not all. Many households have a harmonious relationship between wife and her mother in law.
2007-03-03 06:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Modest 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very common for parents to disapprove of their child's spouse. My wife's father always liked me but he just didn't think I was the right one for his daughter. In his case, it was jealousy - he's no longer #1 in her life. Also, her father is a drug-abusing bum who is often homeless and jobless and abusive. He wants her to be with someone she's not in love with and make sure there's money enough for himself to benefit and still be #1 in her heart, while the spouse takes the #2 spot. No matter - she fell for me and we got married in December, much to his disappointment. He hates the fact that I treat her really well and she's happy with me.
And yes, mother in laws are b!tches quite often, especially when the husband is a MOMMA'S BOY. There's LOTS of those guys around and they always defend mommy and make the wife suffer. Shame on them.
2007-03-03 06:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law and I get along very well and I love her she has always been nice to me and I am to her I tell my friends sometimes that I like my mother in law better than my husband at times.
2007-03-04 12:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by kathy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the individual how they manage the relations in their life. in most cases sons change as soon as they get a wife.but this does not happen with every one. everyone should know their responsibilities and duties. then nothing will go wrong in the family. understanding is very important!
2007-03-03 06:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. i agree with this . it is my personal experiene.I treated my daughter in law as i would have treated my own daughter[unluckily I dont have one] I thought that she could fill that vacancy in my heart. But sad to say she anyhow managed to seperate my son and granddaughterafter staying together for 5 yrs. with us. Maybe I was too good to her, so she took advantage of this. But in the end I blame my son for what they did to us.
2007-03-03 22:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by ritajee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋