My bf of 4 years broke up with me. Not because of i hurt him or did anything bad to him. I think he was just tired of being with me, and wanted to do other things. He recently was very mean and dismissive, and couldn't stand me telling him to be nice to me cause that hurt. He ignored me when i was trying to talk to him about it. Said that he didn't care about what i felt, that he was only going to worry about himself. We have fought similar to this before, but i always go crawling back, swallowing my pride, thinking that he doesn't really mean those things, cause he says that i'm great and all that matters is that i'm with him. Not lately though. I feel like he just wants to get rid of me, but I'm stuck here feeling awful, with no one to talk to, as he was my only and best friend in these last years. I don't want to bother him with my feelings anymore. What should i do?
2007-03-03 05:38:53 · 8 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm sorry to hear what a tough time you're going through at the moment.
i completely understand how hard it is when a relationship ends after years together. perhaps some time not speaking to him, as hard as it may be, may help a little just so you can feel more independent from him for a little while.
it must be especially difficult as you say you have no-one to talk to-is there possibly a family member or former friend you could get in touch with to talk to about your situation?
keeping busy may also help, such as going for a walk, tidying things, cooking-things that may seem silly but should help to take your mind of things a little before it drives you crazy.
also, you could try emailing an organisation such as samaritans, after the breakdown of a serious relationship of mine i found them to be really useful. you can email them (Jo@samaritans.org) or if you're in the uk call them on 08457 90 90 90 and check out their website at http://www.samaritans.org/
i hope this helps a little, keep talking to us on here if it helps :-)
2007-03-03 06:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have some , or at least one other girlfriend that you can chill with . Make some plans , go out have some fun .
Take a class (course) to educate your self with something new , you should occupy your mind , so that there no space to let him in and depress you .
I was with my daughters father for seven years , I spent way too much time letting him make me miserable , until I took the advice I'm given you .
Anyway this guy doesn't deserve the kind of respect and advantage your giving him , he sounds like an ***. I'm sure it wasn't all bad , I'm sure that there was allot of good times , but the point is , that in the end he turned out to be a huge jerk! If he doesn't care about your feelings , why should you sit there and care for him . Don't get me wrong there will be sometimes that he crosses your mind , but it won't be as bad as the way you feel now . Before you know it you'll look back and laugh at how stupid he was to let you go ,and that you waisted that time heart broken over him .
Good luck , hope I've helped you at all
2007-03-03 13:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by cathy s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, ending a long-term relationship sucks but it also can be a great opportunity. Make yourself as busy as possible. Spend more time with your friends, sign up for some classes, volunteer in your community, start a small business, etc. Do whatever but don't give yourself time to think about him. You'll be out there meeting new people and becoming more confident. Before long you won't even notice he's gone anymore. Once he sees that you're more than fine without him, he'll regret letting you go.
2007-03-03 13:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by SecretariesRule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's tough but you need to just cut him off compleately and go out and make some new friends. If you don't cut him out of your life you'll just keep going back to him whenever you're sad or lonely. That isn't healthy and it won't make you happy in the long run. Good luck.
2007-03-03 13:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but i went through a similar experience.... He's fallen out of love
2007-03-03 13:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by HopelessOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy sounds like a jerk, and you don't need him. Get out and do something for yourself. There's a ton of great guys out there.
2007-03-03 13:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by KristaElizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get over him but if u can't maybe u should seek a counsoler so u can talk about your feelings it will poboly make u feel better
2007-03-03 14:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by tm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him.... hes not worth all the pain he has given you!
2007-03-03 13:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋