2007-03-03 05:25:28 · 9 answers · asked by Jasmine A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Include him in all the baby talk and help him feel ownership in a sense. Ask him things like, what do you think we should name your little brothers or sisters? Let him feel the babies moving. Tell him that he has an important job to love and help take care of his new siblings and that they love him very much already. If he feels like he has a relationship with them, then I think he will be less likely to be jealous.
Also just spend some time with him everyday, just about him time. Make sure to always tell him when he does good things or tries hard to do something. Not only when he is successful, but when he makes effort. For example, I really like how you tried to help mommy clean up for lunch. You are such a great helper. Remind him how much you love him and find a time to do things together that he likes to do, so he knows that you love him just as much as the two on the way.
2007-03-03 05:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by emarie21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Include him in the planning and preparation for the twins. Make him understand he'll be the big brother now. Read books about being a brother. Let him know how much the twins will love their big brother. I'm mom to 3. The jealousy is normal. You can combat it if you just keep in mind you need to have some time with the 3 yo too. Let him use a disposable camera to take pictures of your belly, or the nursery. He can fill an album for the babies. IT will make him feel like he's part of it all.
2007-03-03 05:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him small jobs to do with the twins to help him feel he is helping and not being pushed aside. I have a 1 1/2 year old and I have been getting him to help me already like getting dippers for me to change him and then having him throw away his dippers and once our next child comes I will have him do that for the new baby as well. Also if you are going to bottle feed them have him help get the bottles ready or help feed them. When the twins are taking a nap make sure to play with him and tell him all the time how big of a helper he is and how much you love him and are happy he helps so much with the babies. Don't worrie it will be fine I am sure. (I am the oldest of 3 children and we all get along now find LOL)
2007-03-03 05:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Toni T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time the first born has a little problem giving up the center of attintion.As long as you keep reminding him that he will alwats be you little boy it won't be so hard for him.Ask him will you be a big brother and help my get ready the the babies?Let him help you pick out things like the first outfits.Also there is a book about being a big brother for the first time.Or you could try making up your own story book that is personalized about being a big brother.It's worth the trying good luck,and Congradluations!!
2007-03-03 05:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Siblings always are jealous, because they think they are not the one the world revolves around anymore. You need to try and explain that you still love him, but babies take a lot of work. And ask him if could help you, that way he will fill important and not left out.
2007-03-03 05:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly try not to worry about it too much. It's common & normal. Just show him love. How much time you can spend with him will depend on whether you have someone to help with the twins, I guess. But try to make some alone with him.
2007-03-03 05:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Involve your son as much as possible. I would start now with two dolls and roleplay. "Do you think you can get mommy 2 diapers?" Let him help decorate the room, etc. As much as he is involved, the better. Art projects for just mommy and son would be nice. He needs to know you won't forget him.
2007-03-03 05:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by andybugg2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Also, after the babies are born, you will be spending a lot of time caring for them,so don't forget to include your son.
2007-03-03 05:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by buckskinbabydoll♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him to help you with them and interact with them. If he helps take care of them, he will 1)feel responsible and 2) realize how much fun they really are and how much he loves them.
Also, set aside some time for just you and him.
2007-03-03 05:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by love4horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋