So I'm dating 3 women who don't know that I'm dating other women...I also have an interest in 3 other women who potientially want to date me...theres nothing too special about me except that I am really really nice....I'm a huge romantic and I love to make people happy. It gets worse because i feel bad that I am not telling these women about what I am doing...It would hurt if someone did this to me.
Im just confused about why I do this....I seem to seek out attention from females....I have very few male friends most of my friend are females and half the time i think i would mess with them to if i could...its like my life is one constant effort of getting more women to fall for me...at the time it feels like i want to be with them but then I lose interest? This is what I want, a single stable relationship thats supportive and makes me a better person, someone I can trust and spend the rest of my life with someone I am attracted to inside and out,a person I am proud to call mine. How?
2007-03-03 04:57:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok so there are others like me... I'm not actively sleeping with any of them but I have slept with all of them. I actually wouldn't mind waiting till marriage because hopefully the person I am supposed to be with is worth the wait...besides it would be nice to know someone was waiting on me...the question is how do i stop settling for less than I ideally want when I constantly want this attention from women? It seems that I'm just letting women keep me company because I havent found one that I am sure about. They say just wait it will happen but it never has...I think have always settled for less than ideal because i tell myself that nothing and no one is perfect in every way for me... How can I wait for someone that I dont know will come?
2007-03-03 05:16:44 · update #1
Its all on your soul.
If you really want to be good you surely can.
However you really needs to wish, not just for the sake of trying.
2007-03-03 05:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this may sound corny, but as a child, did you not get the love and affection you needed? At least, you do seem to have a conscience about this, but I don't envy you if all those women find out about the others.
It sounds like you haven't really found Ms Right yet, because you didn't mention that any of the people you were dating held any more signficance than the others. I think when you find the right person, you will know, but you will have to watch your "old habits" if you want to have a lasting relationship with her. Don't sabotage yourself when you do find the right one.
2007-03-03 05:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♫ frosty ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are sleeping with all 3 of these women, you need to let them know they are not the only ones. It's ok to just be dating a few people till you find the one you want to be with, but it's not ok to be sleeping with all of them and them not knowing that. Keep in mind what goes around comes around. You wouldn't want to meet the one you want and have her doing the same thing to you. I am sure when you meet the "one" you wont want anyone else. Just be honest about it with the women you are dating. Everyone you are sleeping with, they are too.
2007-03-03 05:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very unstable and unhealthy situation, which is emotionally draining. You are seeking attention of various women while using them for self-gratification. This is very selfish. I don't doubt you are a really nice guy. But its wrong to date all of these women without the promise of something more. I would suggest that you take a break from dating and discover who you really are and what you have to contribute to that someone special in a healthy relationship. It would also be good to seek friendships with guys by getting involved in activities you would enjoy like sports etc. From a woman's perspective, it is very hurtful to invest time and interest in someone who has his eyes for other women, especially, unknowingly. Please be honest with yourself and these young women. If you don't intend to make a commitment to be in a relationship with one woman, then be upfront and honest with these women of your intentions...so they can move on to a more stable and healthy relationship.
2007-03-03 05:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man, but it is possible that there are some men who really do stop cheating and try to live life honestly
2016-03-28 22:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably you just haven't met your match....
And as for the three women that you are dating, just be honest and approach each of them separately and tell them about the .other two (and the 3 potential dates). Believe me, you will realize the importance of honesty in relationships, very soon!! Clarify things and life's gonna be much easier. Just imagine that one day you finally do meet your match & she finds out about your womanizing behavior..... You won't like it. Stay honest and hopefully life will get better soon!!
Good Luck :-)
2007-03-03 05:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by skepty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all your in denial. Your not a nice person and there's nothing romantic about having multipe partners. Your immature, ignorant, self centered, manipulative, cowardly, dis loyal, untrustworthy, undisciplined, and basically lack social skills when it comes to developing worth while valuable relationships. You will either get professional help and change or, a series of painful traumatic events as the result of your poor behavior will ruin you.
Good Luck and I hope you get the help you need.
2007-03-03 05:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DAMN...... THIS QUESTION COULD HAVE BEEN WRITTEN BY ME... I AM EXACTLY THE SAME THING...... I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER KNOWING THAT I AM NOT ALONE..
I was once diagnosed has being addicted to sex, but I am sure you too will agree... it is NOT just the sex that we like. It's the whole attention thing and making them (women) feel loved.
I at the moment have 4 on the role PLUS my wife.... YEAH I know, I should not be doing it, BUT, find it so hard to stop.... at times I see myself luring another one in but do nothing to stop it..... HELP. :-(
2007-03-03 05:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by blackpus88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should watch Alfie. Shows what happens to men like you - they end up alone. You can't carry on like this indefinitely. You will get older and who will care for you then? If you find someone special who makes you happy, then treat her the same way you'd like to be treated.
Otherwise find a freak like you and have someone to come home to who comes home to you and you can both carry on like this.
2007-03-03 05:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you a better person, only you can do it. Tell those women the truth, and date only one at a time.
2007-03-03 05:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by Frances 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋