should i tell him...?

Question

should i tell him that i'm scared that he will leave me again?

because a few days ago he broke up with me, and it was a feeling i never want again. we got back together a couple hours later after talking and yelling and whatnot. im so happy i'm back together with him, but im scared he will break my heart again..

should i tell him how i feel... how should i say it...

Answer 1

Yes. Tell him how you feel, because you can't have a true relationship without complete and total honesty. If you can't be honest with each other, it probably won't work.
And regarding how you should say it--just tell him exactly what you're feelings are, that you're scared he will leave you.

Answer 2

First of all it sounds like the relationship is a little on the rocky side , with the short break up and all. which would have me concerned , but if you two are back together and you want it to stay that way you have to be able to communicate with one another , without trust and communication there is no true relationship , so to answer your question , yes I would tell him that I was afraid , I would tell him that because of the breakup , it has made you a little insecure with the relationship , i would tell him that you love being with him but that you are afraid of this happening again and you dont want that to happen , I would find out for sure what caused it and if you had a part in it then you both need to work on the relationship , I would assure him that you would do everything within reason to work on your part of it and ask that he do the same , but unless he knows how you feel , this may happen again , because this insecurity you feel will keep eating at you and one day it will surface and , it is better to work it out now then to keep letting it boil . If he really cares about you he will understand and you will both be able to work on it together and have a good relationship.

Answer 3

what makes it so scary for you? I mean what is behind the fear? Love, relationships, and break-ups sometimes hurt inside but should never be something that scares you. It sounds almost as if you're at the mercy of your man's decisions.
I think you should tell him for the obvious reason that it scares you.

Personally if a girlfriend told me that it scares her to think that I might break up with her, I would probably be cautious not to break up abruptly for the fear that she may do something crazy. You would really put him in a hard position.

So if you really want to talk to him go for it but it seems the best thing you can do right now is just work through the problems that led to the previous break up and work to make sure the same mistakes are not repeated. Just take the relationship one day at a time. Good luck.

Answer 4

Tell him that you have lost a lot of confidence in your relationship. You can't force him to stay. If he leaves you he obviously didn't love you as much as you deserve anyway. Just remember that everything happens for a reason. And as the old saying goes.. If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you it was meant to be. If it wasn't meant to come back to you, it won't. You will not live life happily if you feel like you are twisting his arm to stay. You need to find confidence in yourself so that if he does leave again it won't tear you apart.

Answer 5

dear friend there is nothing wrong expressing your feelings and is really healthy to be honest and speak from the heart,you can also try to avoid the yelling by taken time out when you feel a conversation is becoming a fight and resume after you though are clear!

Answer 6

Tell him that it made you feel insecure that he broke up with you so easily and then called it off as if it weren't a big deal. Now you are unsure where you stand with him. Tell him that you care a great deal, and don't want to lose him but you need more reassurance just now.

Answer 7

I wouldnt tell him that cause he may try to take advantage of that fact. If you both start arguing he may due it to hurt you even more.
I would definatly keep it to myself. If your feeeling like you dont want to be with him then you shouldnt do it. Go by your heart feeling and not thinking about being alone.

Answer 8

NO dont tell him it will make you look insecure and needy and thats the last thing you want to look like in front of a man

Answer 9

If you live in fear, you will only have heartbreak throughout your life.
You must turn this around..
You need to get rid of this guy and work on your self esteem.

Answer 10

yes you should. just sit down with him and tell him how he hurt you and that you are scared that he will leave you again, then see what his response is.