Is it ok to invite multiple people you are dating to sleep at your house but not have sex with them?

Question

I am dating a nice girl, formerly my girlfriend and we are trying again, but now she recently started dating someone else also. Both guys know about the other, but we recently found out we both have been sleeping at her house but neither of us are having sex with her. She claims she is trying to decide who she wants and does not know what to do but to continue to date us both till she makes her mind up. Both he and I want more from her, but she seems to be holding us both at bay and kind of playing us against each other claiming she is confused and trying to make her mind up. Is she worth sticking with to see if I prevail?

Answer 1

Thinking about her is making the problem complex. Spend a little time thinking about you. What do you want? When do you want it?

If you are uncomfortable with the situation tell her so. If she does not, or can not offer a solution, then make a solution by taking yourself out of the picture. You can leave the door open by saying she can call you when she has made up her mind.

You need to spend some time defending you and your interests. It seems pretty clear that you want a monogamous relationship and that she is not ready to offer that to you. From there it is pretty cut and dried. To get what you want, she must either throw over the other boy, or you must look elsewhere.

P.S. Let's say you win this girl. If she really is playing you two guys against each other then how's it gonna be later on? Is she still going to be playing you are what?

Answer 2

If you are willing to sit around and wait. She may make up her mind in a couple of days but she could end up playing the two of you off one another for a very long time. Seeing how much she can get from both of you. Are you willing to share and try to outdo the other guy? Then stick around. If not then it is time to move on and find a woman that wants you and only you.

Answer 3

Not advisable, temptation is too great.