I need advise plz
2007-03-03 04:43:20 · 9 answers · asked by Nichole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Me and my mom have always faught. And then when she found out about my cutting problem, our realtionship has gone down the drain. She yells at me all the time for her own mistakes, and she calls my dad names all the time, my dad and mom split up when i was 3, and she is always calling him names in front of me!! and then if we get in a huge fight, and she yells at me, after words, she thinks that if she gives me a hug, everthing is ok!! And i am not cooled down by then, and she thinks that I will be by the time she is, and if i aint then she just yells more. I think she got off her anti-depressent pills, and that scares me, cuz i always hear her say She dont know what to do anymore. Like she wants to die or sompin! And she is always sayn im too complicted, and i make every thing hard. And its not my fault!! We live in the same room practically cuz we live with my grandma, grandpa, and uncle, and me an my mom are upstairs but there aint rooms or anything. I dont know what to do anymore!!
2007-03-03 04:52:46 · update #1
Oh, and i do have the choice to move with my father, but he lives in PA, and i live in UT and i would move there with him, but i have got my neice and nephew here, and they mean the world to me, i might go live with my sister and her kids, do you think that would be a good choice? Just to get away from mom for a while? You know, take a brak...Oh, and i am only 13 years old.
2007-03-03 05:03:35 · update #2
i hope this will help... when was the last time you said to your mom that you love her and cared for her? and for you this is the time that you may pay more attention to your mom situation she needs help and comfort, and only you can help her, try reversing the situation if she gets angry or shout at you try to hug her first, she realize how precious you are to her and she may forgotten it due to some problems...
I'll pray for you and your family...
2007-03-03 05:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by NIñolito F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really a lot then you two are speaking two different languages. Somehow you need to come together and start learning how to compromise. Be adult, do not raise your voice and use your manners when speaking to her. She will sit up and take notice. Spend time together, just the two of you, doing something you both enjoy like maybe going on a photo journey, the zoo, a concert...a girl's night out. These things will help your relationship grow on a meaningful level.
If you are an adult and out on your own then you shouldn't have anything to fight about. Your life is your own and you have every right not to put up with her negativity.
Good luck!
2007-03-03 12:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you and your mom fight about? If it's something that you can avoid doing, avoid doing it. If your mother is the type of mother that picks with you(my mother is that type), you have to learn how to tune her out. Don't let what she says get to you, let it roll off your back. Don't be disrespectful, you're still living under her roof. Abide by her rules, stick to the script, and in due time you will be out of there!
2007-03-03 12:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Nessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom and see how see feels about you fighting a lot get out of the house and see what see dose to make your life easey go shoping with her some time and try not to make her life a living hell. hope it works.
2007-03-03 12:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bass Head Central! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A move sounds like it would help. Please find help though for the cutting. There are people out there who care, like some teachers or your dad or sister. Tell one of them.
2007-03-03 13:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want some magazine articles? I'll send them to you.
2007-03-03 16:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi There, You can ask God to help you with this. He will help you. Good luck on it. And be brave. God loves you. God bless you.
2007-03-03 13:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by I Love My Friends 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to fight. Just don't do it!
2007-03-03 12:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trying doing stuff b4 she tells you to and get it done fast then you'll avoid fighting
2007-03-03 12:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋