Before you judge me here's the deal...
I'm not often attracted to anyone, but this guy is gorgeous, smart, and very sweet, and it's been a long time since I've been attracted to anyone. He is the kind of guy I would want for myself...with the exception that he would probably cheat on his wife lol.
I'm not interested in breaking up anyone's marriage, but I do want to explore this guy sexually. When we met an electric current passed between us, and we both felt it. We've never spoken about this mutually attraction, and we have been dancing around it for 3 years now.
We try to spend as much platonic time together as possible...i.e., going to lunch with just the 2 of us, staying late discussing mutual interested after everyone else has left, and when I'm out sick he always calls to cheer me up.
Now it's coming to a head, we both know it, and I don't know if I should let this happen. Help!
2007-03-03 04:39:17 · 34 answers · asked by Anna Banana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, but NO
Yes, if you are aware that things would not change and you are just doing it for the heck of it, and you feel that you can deal with it.
NO, if you aim to start a relationship with him hoping that he will leave his partner for you. Also, NO, if you can not deal with the fact that he too might / or might not want to sleep with you. BUT, if he does... it might just be ONCE and then passes you like two ships in the dark. Can you deal with that?
2007-03-03 04:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by blackpus88 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People don't cheat because they don't love their spouses or even because they love the person they are cheating with. We cheat because there is something missing at home, a connection or passion or something of that nature... we may have even tried to fix it but just cant seem to get it to happen. So this guy has done what alot of people do, he found it somewhere else. That's not to say that you aren't worth is time and energy, obviously you are he found what he was looking for in you. But he doesn't love you darlin', Else he would be looking in to leaving his wife. You should tell him to go back home to his wife when he stays late or goes to lunch with you, go and show her his love and devotion. That's how you show love and respect for you and him and her. You seem like a nice woman, so why settle for a guy who can only partly be there for you? Why wouldn't you try to find a man who shares his qualities AND who can share every part of his life with you??
2007-03-03 04:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sure you dont have any principle in your life, the only thing that I ll tell you is that just the fact that you re attracted to him is a sin let alone having lunch with him & saying alone & the best part is to sleep with him, do you have a heart do u know that now he no longer has pleasure with his wife cause of thinking about you , do u know that his poor wife is now suffering seeing his behaviour change, do you know that you are about to ruin a family a household isn't that moving sth inside you, would you like to be at his wife's place?? would you like to see your husband cheating on you??
pleaseeee think wisely & be fair
I wish you good luck in your life & I wish you ll find an unmarried person to really love & build your life with.
2007-03-03 04:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i kno i would if he is attracted haha lol. but when u said that u two r always together after work discussing stuff u should try to kiss him or make it be a really quiet moment and then turn on him like the axe commercials. lol but u can take my dvice or have a losy life. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-03 04:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by brit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Take the moral high road and keep away from him. Would you want to be in his wife's place and find out some woman slept with him knowing that he was married? No one likes a home wrecker. Don't try to justify it. Just don't do it.
2007-03-03 04:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. It's wrong, he is married. What goes around comes around. You don't want a husband that would cheat on you, don't help someone else do that to their wife. Doesn't matter how hot he is etc....it's not worth it.
2007-03-03 04:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats really wrong!! just because you have an attraction to this guy doesn't mean you should both go into sexual intercourse! try to find someone else who you feel the same about (and single) and don't put this other guy through adultery!
2007-03-03 04:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE'S MARRIED! no it was just cause A LOT of problems and a lot of ppl would end up hating u.
just find some1 single
2007-03-03 05:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't agree with the others, you should go ahead and have sex with him just for killing the curiosity. I mean if sex in it's raw form is no issue with you, then go ahead just don't go ahead and fall in love or something like that. No matter how good he is in the bed. Remeber, sex is beautiful in itself and should be enjoyed without emotions like love interfering in it. Here i don't mean no mutual attraction, but that's not the true in your case, so i say ....... GO FOR IT GIRL !!!!!
2007-03-03 04:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by sanity s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do thsi, cause you work together. One of you should quit. Then fly to another city, where you're not so well known, and tear it apart.
2007-03-03 04:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋