my soon to be groom is mad at me because his friend told him a lie. he told erick( my soon to be groom) that he is the father. so erick thinks that i lied to him when i told him he was the father it is the truth. how do i convince him of it. now he's saying the wedding is off. im really mad and upset because he is not beliving me.and our wedding WAS in 4 weeks. but now it is off. i really need him. being 4 months pregnant with his twins. i really need to convince him or all the money is all going down the tude. please and thank you.
2007-03-03 04:31:12 · 12 answers · asked by god's child 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you sure that you want to get married? If he can be so easily convinced that you lied/cheated on him - what will friends convince him of after you're married?
Of course, he may have cold feet and he's using this as an excuse not to get married.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this - good luck!
2007-03-03 04:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though i don't agree with getting married for the children's sake, i can tell you that there is a test that can be done at the hospital. I am not sure how far along you have to be, but they basically compare the DNA of the unborn twins to the father's. Unfortunately, it is the only sure fire way that i know of. What would bother me more, if I may say so, would be the appear-ant lack of trust Eric has for you. It is one thing if you have given him reason not to trust you in the past, but even still I can tell you that distrust kills a relationship just as fast as dishonesty. That is something you and Eric should talk about in depth before you get married.
2007-03-03 12:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will be able to convince him until you get a paternity test. Someone is lying here, and I hope it's the friend, because, if there is ANY chance at all the babies are not your fiance's, then it was a good thing that the friend said something now, rather than later when it would be very unfair to your fiance to have married you under false pretenses. Otherwise, your fiance has one wicked-evil friend, to get in the way of two people, trying to do the right thing for two innocent children.
2007-03-03 12:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to convince your fiance's friend to come clean and tell the truth. It seems like he is jumping to conclusions about you being unfaithful rather easily. Does he really believe that you could cheat on him or does he have a case of cold feet? Getting married and having twins on the way could just have been to much for him to take. So the whole story about the babies not being his could have been his way of getting out of it all. You need to sit down with your fiancee and his friend and have this out. And if the end he doesn't believe you then it doesn't sound like your losing that great a guy anyway.
2007-03-03 12:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use amniocentesis to get a DNA sample of the baby and have a paternity test done. Then sue the friend for slander to recover the money spent on the wedding so far, then break up with Erik for not believing you in the first place.
2007-03-03 12:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would his friend lie to him? If you cheated on him could the babies be somebody else's? The damage is done and unfortunately proving it's not true is up to you. Unless his friend recants what they said you'll just have to wait until you can do a DNA test (for both babies) to prove to him they are his.
2007-03-03 12:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Gremlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm... well did u screw his best friend? how else could it be possible that he's the father as opposed to your fiance?
and if the money is one of your first worries, doesn't look like you're that worried about losing erick...the way that came across is that you're mainly concerned about the wasted money.
2007-03-03 12:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by lilcavazfam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to be ok .think long and hard about weather you want a man that would so easly kick you to the curb as a husband .go after him for child support and find a man that believes and wants to believe in you
2007-03-03 13:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that your so postivie as soon as they are born you can have a DNA test done and If he truly loved you and trusted you then why would he think you lied to him?
2007-03-03 12:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Oh Snap! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a paternaty test, plain and simple.
2007-03-03 12:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Owlchemy_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋