My boyfriend cannot make time for me because of his career. We are trying to make the relationship work.?

Question

I have a dilemma with my boyfriend and I making time for our relationship. We have been together for about nine months now and we have a lot in common. We both went to the same high school together almost during the same years and we both work for the same employers at a very large hospital with multiple office locations scattered about the city. He is a registered nurse and Im a clerical associate. When we met it was a blind date and we suddenly started feeling each other and we love each other alot. At first we really didnt spend a lot of time with each other at first but we would spend maybe a day a week together or so. But he now goes to school to further is career and he has to take extra shifts at the hospital and doing home visits because of the extreme nursing shortage. He's very depressed that he is guilty that we dont spend time with each other because of his demanding career. Im a little depressed about it too, but I told him that I understand and there really isnt much he can do on his end. We stillk talk on the phone a few days a week and visit each other a few times a month but he cant just say to his employer that I cant do extra shifts because they will indeed fire him on the spot. And he also is a full-time student his grades are starting to slip because he's strapped on time on getting his assignmentsout handed in on time and he has fallen behind seriously. The reason he is a student is because he wants to further his career and become a nurse practioner with better hours and more freedom. I am willing to work out a compromise with him and work out something together like soon move in together and possible getting married. I believe in him and I know he's not playing games with me and every time I talk to my younger girlfriends about it they seem to always have to come up with some excuse why he is no good. He called me and expressed his frustrations with me and try to arrange something. I love him and would not abandon him and in a way its making our relationship much stronger because of our absence from each other.He has had previous relationships that his girlfriends ended up breaking up withg him, but Im willing to keep myself busy with other things that it doesn't affect me in a huge huge way and Im willing to wait. Any suggestions to make him feel more at ease?

Answer 1

Just let him know you are behind him 100% and understand the schedule he is on. It's rough when he has to put in so many hours between work and school, but when it's all done, the time he will save in life will be alot better for the both of you. Let him know you are there and understand the frustration of not seeing eachother, but you know you will see alot more of him when this is over. He just needs your support more than anything to get through it all. Sounds like the two of you have a good relationship and trust between one another. Just see eachother whenever you can and keep the support going and the talking going and I am sure you will make it through. I wish you the best!