i made one of my family members go to tears by saying something cruel to them- it just slipped!!! i don't know how to apologize to them without making it akward.... and yes, i know it was mean and everything, but please don't tell me that i shouldn't have done it in the first place!
2007-03-03 04:05:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The only way to solve this is to be honest and direct. you need to accept the fact that it will feel awkward to you. you did wrong and you need to say that to her. Suppose yousaid he or she is fat.
Then you say, listen I really want to apologise to you. what I said was very rude of me and I have felt terrible about it ever since. I will do my very best to never say such a thing again. I really do apologise. Will you forgive me? If the situation is ok then you could choose to elaborate a bit, and say... I never knew I could be so mean.. I learned something about myself... I do not want to hurt people... so...I'm sorry.
things like that. Hope it is helpful. Listen to your family member if he or she does forgive you. listen to why it hurt.... that is apology in itself.
2007-03-03 04:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww Sweetie, the ultimate foot in mouth syndrome :) I have that problem too sometimes..
If you really mean it just do it awkward or not.. The reason you feel awkward is because you feel bad about what you did..Thus finding the right words that will make it all better seem like they don't exist..
It's good you feel bad and its even better that you feel awkward ... That means you are sincere about wanting to fix the situation..
Just be yourself and don't try to sugar coat your apology. If it sounds fake , the person you offended will know..
I hope you apologize and as a rule ( cause I tend to slip too:) always try to give yourself 10seconds before responding to someone .. That prevents(sometimes) foot in mouth syndrome.
Hope for all the best for you.. now go and apologize from your heart :)
2007-03-03 12:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Joann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do to them straight up and say you're sorry and you didn't mean to say something like that. If they say that you did, say that at least you know now that you shouldn't have said it, there, then and that way. Apologize again and finish it. The fact and only that you spend time about it and feel bad, shows you're a normal person and after all, every body has bad days and moments.
2007-03-03 12:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply send a card "I'm sorry" card. They will read it. Just pour your heart out. Say that you realize what you said was cruel and callous and there is no way to take back the words, but you are sorry you hurt them, and in the future, if they could find it in their heart to forgive you, you'll try through your awkwardness never to do that again. Please except my apology and know that it has been tearing at my heart to know how much those words pierced you. I hadn't a right to do it, and please, forgive me.
2007-03-03 12:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by avalm@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do, is go and say sorry. Tell the person that you did not mean to hurt his/her feelings and you realize it was a terrible thing you did. Be ready for a mouthful from this person, as she/he might still be mad at you. Patch things up while you still can and do not prolong the rift.
Next time, think before you speak. You know the saying, stick and stones...
2007-03-03 13:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, I don't have much of details to it; but a good remedy would be to check what your condition is over that membre. Normally you should do amends over them, by doing or giving things they like you to. In the mean time, decide if you'd like to be friends with them in the future and make it known to them publicly.
There is a set of steps, called Condition Formulas, able to help you set your life and deal with people much more easier. If you'd care to know about it, click on my avatar and let me know about it and I'll give you its ref.-
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2007-03-03 12:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and apologize. Don't give it so much thought. He who loses his temper usually loses.
2007-03-03 12:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologize and deal with the awkwardness.
2007-03-03 12:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just say, "Listen, I love you, and I'm really sorry for hurting your feelings, sometimes I'm just so thoughtless..." or "I feel really rotten for hurting your feelings, because my foot always finds it's way to my mouth...I'm sorry." Or maybe..."I'm so sorry, I didn't mean it, I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me."
2007-03-03 12:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should just go talk 2 them and tell them that you didn't mean wut u said i'm sorry but there's nothing else u can do
2007-03-03 12:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by kwlcmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋