Should I change my psychologist?

Question

Lately, we have been talking about a very sensitive subject that is difficult for me to talk about. I've been wanting to avoid going to her sessions. I've been apathetic towards most people around me, bitchy, rude, angry. Is that normal? I keep getting headaches and feel sad in this environment. What's going on? I'm 19.
Additional Details

1 hour ago
I like her, but it's not helping me with my current problems.

1 hour ago
We are discussing a sensitive topic, is it natural to want to avoid talking about this?

1 hour ago
I was very nice and sweet my first semester, now everyone is starting to see my other real side. I feel so revealed, without any protection. It might just come down to this that I am a horrible wperson no wants to be friends with.

1 hour ago
Not on medication.

Answer 1

Hi there, i a, only in my second semester at uni too so know how much it is to handle when you have personal issues also. I started seeing my uni counsellor about a week and half ago...she told me that sometimes we have images, issues that we feel bad about and that we think through talking about them or going to counselling we can automatically make them better but sometimes it feels like it makes them worse and you go home from the session feeling worse than when you went in. She said that's completely normal...and not to worry thinking I was going crazy or the sessions where making me feel worse. You have to face the issues to work through them. I don't think your psychologist is trying to make you feel worse, although trust me I went to a physchiatric nurse once who made me feel like crap and I had to get away from her, cus she shouted at me and told me i was lying!!

I think you should pick a good moment perhaps at the start of your next session and say that you were weiry about coming back because you feel like, the sessions are making you feel worse, or at least not helping and that you feel sad..see what she says...

It's completely natural to want to avoid a senitive area...at the end of the day this person is a stranger, and even though sometimes people suggest thats a good thing, it often doesn't feel it when your sitting there and been made to feel like you have to talk about something so personal...If i was you I would openly telll her it's making you uncomfortable...even ask her why she feels out both need to disscuss this. By asking her some questions you will feel more in control and less vulnerable. But try to accept that perhaps she has a method of helping you that involves touching these issues...If you feel really uncomfortable and want to stop say so or just give her very short answers until she moves along.

I used to think after you went and sought help that you would start to feel better and that making the first appointment was the most daunting part. I didn't realise that every time I would go I would feel soo scared & still feel like I was a mental case for needing to go...even though it's not the case.

You have been so strong in stitcking out these sessions and going in the first place, so well done like, it's so hard! We all go through tough times, but going through mentally hurtful or sensitive issues, is a lot to cope with, yoru close friends will understand...just tell them you are sorry but have a lot to deal with right now and if your "out of sorts" sometimes, you don't mean it. If there's a close friend in uni that you trust perhaps confiding in them could help also!

I wish you all the best of luck and if you want to email me feel free because I kinda know what your going through

Answer 2

You are nineteen. Everyone talks about the early to midteens but nobody talks about the time when it is nineteen almost not a teen . I remember being nineteen well although it was only 35 years ago. It was a strange time so I am not likely to forget it. Has it ever occured to you that your mind, the person that you are is building some type of bridge while you are busy at being nineteen with all the things that go with it. Strange as it seems, that is the perspective that many of us have when we look back to this point of time.

The advice I wished I'd received is " Don't take it too seriously. All things must pass. In a few short years you'll have a little more of life's experience that will help you to work through the negatives and confusion. The thing to do in the present is to think less about the present as if it will never go away and realize that there are others experiencing the same things as you do. It's easy to feel sad and negative and alienated. It's harder to be a truly happy and loving person because that takes real work."

Answer 3

It's not unusual to go through difficult periods with your psychologist, and it is often very painful when you start talking about sensitive subjects, but try to hang on in there honey, you will feel better in the long run.
If you change psychologists now, then you will have to start all over again, and I'm sure you don't want to do that do you? Try to hang on in there.

Answer 4

Changing psychologists is not a bad idea, because it's very personal, and it needs to be someone who has a good rapport with you. But going to sessions and getting the problem resolved is up to you. If you really want things resolved, you have to bring things out in the open and deal with them. Maybe you're not ready. But I hope you are, because it's better to resolve your past hurts so you can reach out to other people again and feel like yourself. I'm glad you're not on meds, because I think they cover up your true feelings and mess with your head. You need to get to the root of the problem. I think you need spritual healing.

Answer 5

As it is a sensitive topic, it is likely that it is a subject that is needed to be discussed, which is why she is pushing you, but as you are unwilling to talk about she needs to move on and come back to it at a later date. As she is not doing that, i suggest seeing someone else, see what happens there, still see her, if she continues, then report her! She is not doing her job properly!!!

Answer 6

It sounds like this doctor is getting you to open up, give her a chance and go back, she is doing her job right.

Answer 7

Continue to see her even if you have to force yourself to go. I strongly suggest you let her know how you are feeling...she might have some insight on this.