I'm 19 years old and I'm going out with this really good guy. However I recently started this Office job and I've gotten to know one of my colleagues.We went to a posh restaraunt together and we ended up going to bed together.
My boyfriend told me he wanted to start a faily with me and get married but I think I am in love with my colleague. What should I do?
2007-03-03 03:35:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming you haven't told your boy friend yet? It's obvious your not ready to settle down yet, and I can't blame you, your just 19 and starting to live. Just be honest and tell your boyfriend what happened. I'm guessing he will be crushed, but don't live a lie.
2007-03-03 03:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already cheated him, starting a family is not the best of ideas. You're not into it yet. Especially if you feel in love with your colleague-not very good either- you shouldn't let your boyfriend dream about you two in the future. you see no future with him i assume so let him go and find what he needs. You may love him but timing is important in these things and i don't think you have it. sorry if it sounds hard, i just don't believe it's fair for any of you to be in such a situation further more. You deserve to have what you want and so does he. As for telling him about the cheating thing i don't think i can be of much help. The thing is that no matter how you say these break up words, you still get to hurt him, so if you can do it without telling him would be better, otherwise and if you need to be deadly honest tell him. Hope i helped somehow..
2007-03-03 11:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think that it's professional dating a colleague, and I feel that your getting lust and love mixed up. The problem with us female is we constantly say that we want a man who doesn't just want sex, but soxmeone who wants a long term relationship and someone who has respect, but as soon as we get that guy, we're chasing the complete opposite. Don't skip out on a good thing, just because you had a one night of ur colleague penis
2007-03-03 11:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your boyfriend the turth about you and your colleague. It's going to hurt him, but you can't stay in a relationship if you've already cheated on your boyfriend. Also talk to your colleague because he may not want the same out of a relationship that you want. Good Luck.
2007-03-03 11:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already cheated on him, what else do you need to know. Break up with him. Don't tell him exactly why or it will kill his ego. If you care about him at all just do the whole" my feelings have changed" bit that you females are so good with. 19 is pretty young to get married unless it is your main goal in life. Look around and find someone who will grow with you. You'll be happier in the long run.
2007-03-03 11:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by dave k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying for us guys...."Never dip your pen in corporate ink." You really screwed up sleeping with a colleague. Hopefully, he's not higher up the ladder than you, so if you break it off with him it won't have repercussions on you.
You need to break it off with your colleague, and break it off with your boyfriend. Start over fresh with your new job, and meet someone new. You're 19!!!!!! Don't screw your life up with marriage and being the office whore. :)
2007-03-03 11:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was cheap of you to cheat on your b/f with your colleague.
If you love your colleague so much that you went to bed with him, it is time to dump your boyfriend, & get married to your new best boyfriend.
Stop putting him through the hurt. What if he did you that way?
2007-03-03 11:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a bit too young to think about marriage but you are NOT too young to have fun and date. So, take your time and get to know both of these guys. You may have these strong feelings for the "office guy" because you had sex w/him. It's not LOVE. That takes time. But always trust your heart, my dear. No regrets.
2007-03-03 11:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u're boyfriend and u're colleague are so good persons why u don't talk with them about that? With both.
U're coleague know's that u got another one? Try to tell him.
And is better to talk abot u're adventure with u're boyfiend.
Both will understand.
Then tink what u want for a boy and decide who is two best.
2007-03-03 11:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by costin l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are not ready for a long term relationship with this 'really good guy' Break it off with both of them and be you for a while, figure out what you want!
2007-03-03 12:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by scootkat84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋