hey thanks for comeing! Yesterday (friday) I asked this wicked cute kid in my class out. Well i got a friend to do it. I've been trying to ask him out for about a month now. Unfountnely he said no. He smiled gave a little unsure dont wanna be here right now kinda laugh looked up at the ceiling tiles and said "na"
Now i think that he mighta thought my friend was joking becasue i never talk to him (it's not that i dont want to. I just cant. 0_o) Or he might have said no because Kalee asked him out for me.
so heres my 2 questions:
1) should i ask him to the up comeing saint patricks dance or will that look desperate?
2)based on him actions do you think he wanted to but said no because he thought it was a joke or because my friend asked him or do you think he was just amused?
Thank u! =) =( =|
2007-03-03 03:02:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
UUUhhhh...I hate those stupid high school (jr high?) head games.
My thoughts would be that if you asked him out and he said "no." Why put yourself there again? What is magicly different this time around? The guy is cute so go back for rejection seconds?
Based on your description he wasn't "a little unsure," he was not interested. DON'T over think stuff and you life will be easier for it.
Go find a guy that would be interested in you to ask out to the dance.
2007-03-03 03:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it some time, show him you like him, talk to him every once in a while, like nothing happened, make him feel unsure about whether it was a joke or not. When i say show him you like him i mean: smile to him, look at him a little for a few seconds or so and if he looks back at you, take your eyes off of him, but not in the panic way. If he does not respond in any way, move along, he doesn't like you, otherwise you'll see what to do. If he realizes that you may like him, he'll show how he feels. And then you can ask him out again- yourself this time- or he may even ask you! you never know. Sometimes this chase game, this never sure what's going on, works really well with guys!!! Good luck and have fun...
2007-03-03 11:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as women, we think far more into it than the men do. He probably just said no because he meant no.
I would ask him yourself as he would respect you more as it would coming directly from you. You may still get the answer you do not want to hear, but at least you put away your shyness and you put your guts forward and asked. That means something.
Just start talking to him and get to know him as a friend and see if you would really want him to go with you once you really got to know him more as a person rather as an onlooker. He may not be who you really thought he was. Looks are not everything. He may be cute, but he may have the personality of a wet fly. On the other hand, you may find him to become a great friend and he may say yes down the road to other dances. Take it slow and don't rush it. It won't be a failure if you don't get to go with him to this dance.
2007-03-03 11:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, My advice would be not to rely on your friend, because of several reasons. *you don't know how he reacted because you are going off your friends information * second he probably didn't know if you were serious or if your friend was just joking around because there is no way for you to truly know what or how your friend told him.
If you can find the courage, try to put yourself in a situation where you can hang out and have some causal conversation, Go with your gut, you will know by his mannerisms if you should ask him to the dance... look for things like, is he talking to you, are his eyes wondering, does he stick around to chat or take off in the other direction... I know it's easier to ask a friend to help you out but I think you only truly know how he's feeling if you investigate it yourself. Good luck!
2007-03-03 11:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just not that into you, if he is not asking you out
because if he likes you, trust me he will ask you out
this is from the book by Greg Berhendt,
he is very informative
he worked on sex in the city. wrote hes just not that into you,From Publishers Weekly
It’s a classic single-woman scenario: you really like this guy, but he’s giving mixed messages. You make excuses, decide he’s confused, afraid of commitment. Behrendt, a former executive story editor for Sex and the City—and a formerly single (now happily married) guy who knows all the excuses—provides a simple answer: he’s just not that into you. Stop kidding yourself, let go and look for someone else who will be. After all, as Behrendt sensibly puts it, "if a (sane) guy really likes you, there ain’t nothing that’s going to get in his way." If you’re not convinced yet, by all means read this smart, funny and surprisingly upbeat little book, full of q’s and a’s covering every excuse woman has ever made to avoid admitting to herself that a man just wasn’t that smitten with her.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.
2007-03-03 11:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by twocrafty65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to ask him to the dance i think you should go for it...this time i'd suggest you ask him personally dont put ur friends up to it.
and as for ur second question he might have been unsure and thought it was a joke...or just thought it was kind of amusing...some guys are weird like that
2007-03-03 11:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not sure himself by the sounds of it. Ask him yourself if he's like to go to the St. Patrick's day dance with you. You'll get your answer one way or the other this way. If he does want to then awesome and great. But if he doesn't want to then, there are other guys to ask I'm sure, that would want to go to the dance with you. Take care, and good luck.
2007-03-03 11:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would ask him in case he tought your friend was asking him out. And you should ask him to the saint patricks dance but try not to seem desperate or he will say no. And ask him when he is not around him friends and mayby he will say yes, but you never know unless you try.
Hope it works out for you. ^_^
2007-03-03 11:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Panic! lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible the young man did not know if it was a real invitation or she was playing games with him. It is much better to ask him out yourself.
2007-03-03 11:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him out yourself. You can't do worse than get a no, rihgt? He won't know you are serious until he sees you come do it. After all , how are you gonna go out with him if you can't even talk to him? Good Luck!
2007-03-03 11:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by littlblueyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋