Me and his girlfriend are so worried about him. He keeps saying that he will learn from his own mistakes, but I'm afraid that he will go past the point of no return and be permantly affected by this ordeal. I just want him to stop. But I have such a hard time talking with him nowadays...how can I sit him down and get him to agree to cease this dangerous activity?
2007-03-03 02:47:33 · 13 answers · asked by Confused... 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
The heroic thing is to bust him with parents/ school.
In doing so you'll be called names like "Snitch", "Rat", &"Betrayer". You'll see the ugliest side of him emerge, and possibly see concequences that nobody wants (Drug rehab, Jail) ... but bottom line is that you've taken the first step for him by forcing him down a path he should take. Often addicts are snicky, and they'll manipulate their way out of the situation; and hate you because you're telling them "No". Remember, he's not himself, so you can't take ANYTHING he says are "Truth", in fact, all his words are "Lies"; because he's lying to himself. This is why it is so heroic to be the "Betrayer."
Ok, (blush) I love the Back Street Boys ... anyways they had an addict in their group. They did this "Tough Love" for him. He went to re-hab and now he's recovered. I'm glad that his group loved him enough to do these steps.
2007-03-03 02:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
several people here are right, from 1st hand experience, I was and alcoholic and a drug addict from 16 to 30 and still am once an addict always an addict, its a fight EVERYDAY! . I just went thru life thinking there was nothing wrong with it as long as I could hold a job, whats it hurt, right? WRONG! I have been clean and sober for 2 years, and my friends and family tried the whole thing that they would stop being around me if i didn't quit, but with a real addict it didn't matter, the drugs were more important than anyone, I lost many friends that way, but that's my past now, when i turned 30 i realized my life was going nowhere FAST! and I had to do something, So I went to NA (narcotics anonymous) and AA (alcoholics anonymous) this really helped, but as some have said you cant help him, he has to WANT to help himself and recognize he has a problem, in other words if he doesn't believe he has a problem, then all the stuff you are saying is going in one ear and out the other, you wait and be supportive when he does eventually ask for help.
2007-03-07 10:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That story is so sad...this is the time of life for planning your life and building it's foundation, not to be ruining the future through the use of drugs. All you can do is impress upon him (once) that you care but am not going to hang around someone who is determined to put their life in a dumpster. As sad as it seems, your life will be better without a druggie around to mess you up.
Good luck, and I hope he changes, but don't hold your breath.
2007-03-03 11:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by bob shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE him stop, if he doesn't want to. How does he look? Seriously, are his teeth turning black, is his face thinning and does he have the look of just being not well? Do you have a picture of him, before he started drugs? Have you compared it to how he looks, now? Sometimes, intervention will help, but, mainly, he has to WANT to be off drugs, before he will be. Is he selling drugs, in order to buy drugs? if so, Turn him in. Seriously, it may save his life, since he may not get his drug of choice in jail.
Does he live by himself, or with parents? Do the people he lives with KNOW he is on drugs? If he runs out of money, he WILL steal anything and everything around him in order to GET the drugs. He is not in his 'right mind' while on drugs. Is he driving? He could kill other people, as well as himself. He could kill YOU and his girlfriend in order to get the drugs his body is hungry for.
Sometimes, the only help for someone who is not wanting to get off drugs is to be turned into the police. It may save his life. It did my son's. I turned him in, and he's been off drugs ever since. He's gainfully employed and he is a different person, off drugs.
2007-03-03 10:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by laurel g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about his problem, and how you and his girlfriend are worried about him. get his GF stop seeing him when he wants to go out until he stops doing drugs and comes to his senses. your going to need to recommend him to the local rehab and take his drugs away for his own good. when you talk to him, say all about how he is hurting the ones he loves and that so many horrible things can happen when he uses them, besides death- like hurting others, getting into fights, and never having a future.
2007-03-03 10:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for him! And if you can do it not alone. In accordance with God's promise He stands in the midst of even two people who are gathered in His name. But, pray out of your heart, because nothing else can prevent your friend from stopping. Drug addictions are often untreatable by human means. I know, because my cousin is dying from a drug addiction and yet can't stop.
2007-03-03 10:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kalistrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a shame. You have too have the willpower to want quit something, if he does not then he is going to have to learn on his own. Or you can try an intervention program. Good luck to you all.
2007-03-03 10:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by bdgizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, My name is Mike and I am going to answer your question by experience! There is nothing you can say or do to get him to stop. I am sorry but till he wants to stop he will not. He needs counseling and treatment for what he is taking & doing... Good luck I hope everything turns out well for him.
2007-03-03 11:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Michael M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person chooses to be an drug addict its there addiction theres no turning back although you could try and talk to his girlfriend about only having sex with him if hes clean that could work
2007-03-03 10:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a camel to water but you cannot make the camel drink water.
So it depends whether he is ready to go through cold turkey stage.
2007-03-03 16:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋