Is it wrong to teach your child not to be gay. My mother taught me it is a sin to be gay. I am now 17 and living my fiancee and my 3 year old daughter and I am teaching my child not to be gay. I believe it to be immoral and I am going to raise her not to be gay. I believe strongly in morals.
2007-03-03 02:40:24 · 31 answers · asked by Martin A Neville 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is because of my mothers teachings I am not gay. So it will be because of mine my daughter wont be.
2007-03-03 03:05:30 · update #1
You are a great guy!
Yes, you should teach your child what you think is wrong and she is not too young (may not understand fully but she will as she gets older).
The Word says to teach them when they are young and when they are older, they will not depart from the teaching. This has proven true with my family; my sons are grown up now they hold onto the values that they were taught as children.
2007-03-03 02:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by shendley04 3 · 2⤊ 8⤋
That is not why your not gay. It is a fact that being gay is in a persons genetic make up. Think about this, if your child grows up to be gay, would you not love her anymore? Everyone is entitled to their opinions, but you should not be so ignorant to think that you can teach someone to be straight. Why is this even an issue with a child the age of three? If your morals are so strong, why did you have a child before marriage? And don't jump to the conclusion I'm gay, just because I disagree with you. I am not, but I am educated.
2007-03-03 13:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot be taught to be gay or straight. How dare you try an teach someone to be something they are not. since you are straight let me ask a question not to be offensive but why do you feel the need to teach a 3 yr old about how to "not live her life when she is older" she is a child. Learn to accept her as her and your Mother should learn to do the same with you and her granddaughter. It is fine to teacher your 3yr old morals but they should be more about telling the truth and not stealing being a good person and accepting people from all walks of life. Please don't instill fear of the unknown into your daughter it will only hurt her in the long run.
2007-03-03 11:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are VERY naive!! Being gay or not being gay isn't something that's taught. It's already determined in your child's make up when they are born. You are teaching your child, as your mother taught you, to be intolerant and "racist" against gay people. There is a HUGE difference in what you say and what you are doing. If you believe it's immoral, fine for you. The only thing you CAN do, is teach your child what the Bible says and then let nature take it's course. If her make up is to be gay, then she will be. Just like you can't teach her to be white, or black or orange, or purple. Just like you can't teach her to be blonde, brunette or redhead. These things are already determined. God creates us, so therefore, whatever he included in our makeup is what will be. For you to believe your mother's teachings "saved" you from being gay, would suggest you believe you possibly were to begin with. It's naive, backward thinking like yours and your mother's, that is causing problems for the world at large.
2007-03-03 12:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. Your mom did such a good job with the morals that you had sex at 14 and now have a 3 year old daughter. Maybe instead of focusing on how wrong it is to be gay, you should look at ways to help prevent your daughter from ending up in the same situation that you are in. Let me ask you this, if your daughter does end up being gay, are you gonna love her any less? Just my two cents.
2007-03-03 11:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by raintigar 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you think you're not gay due to your mother's "teachings", that is the most hysterical thing I have ever heard and hon, you live in the dark ages. A person does not choose to be gay. They are either attracted to men or women deep down inside. And just because they are gay doesn't mean they don't have strong morals.
I'm not gay myself, and only know one person that is, but what they do behind closed doors is none of my business. Maybe you're putting too much focus on NOT being gay that your daughter will end up being gay. Uh oh..better watch that!
2007-03-03 11:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really think it is very wrong, now she will grow up, as you have, with strong prejudices against people because of their sexuality. Also you may be able to teach her to dislike gay people but I don't believe you can teach her to not be gay I believe that if thats way she was born then she will be gay no matter how bad you tell her it is. You should teach her to be open minded and to not judge people on silly things like sexuality, just because somebody is gay does not make them a bad person.
2007-03-03 10:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Angie B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's like teaching her not to be a girl. If she's gay, she's gay. You can't "teach" her to be something she isn't. All you're doing now is insuring that if she grows up and IS gay, she'll know without a doubt that you will be disapproving. That's one of the greatest reasons for teen suicide, by the way - kids who were gay and grew up in families that didn't accept gay people. Let her be who she is and teach her that you will love her no matter who or what she loves. You are teaching her to hate.
2007-03-03 10:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You raise your child the way you believe, however, I will ask this: don't raise them close-minded. While you have your set of morals, your "right and wrong", please also teach your child tolerance of those different than you, be it sexual orientation, religion, station, color, etc (going back to that whole "Judge not, lest ye be judged" line, or "whosoever has not sinned, let him cast the first stone")
Morals should also include tolerance. If there were more tolerance and less stupidity in the world, we might not be inbrued in a war. Just a thought.
2007-03-03 10:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by his_lil_patriot 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is considered a sin but i do not look at people differently because of it as it is none of my business and not my life.on the other hand i dont agree with teaching your child at this age that being gay is wrong. She is still too young to understand and shouldnt be around these things at this age either..either wait until she gets older or just leave it be,she will see it as wrong on her own...
2007-03-03 11:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must be joking - since that would make you the "very moral" 17 year old single father of a 3 year old.
But just for fun its not something that can be taught like the very good morals that were clearly bestowed on your fictional persona.
2007-03-03 14:28:21 · answer #11 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋