I'm not that fat.But my bf keep sayin i'm fat and i'm not that happy cuz i juz wan someone who accepts me for who i am.We've been together for 2 years but i still wonder whether i should go on with him.What should I do??
2007-03-03 02:37:00 · 14 answers · asked by cheenameena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you still want to go on with him.Think,what can you do to avoid this issue from comingup?how can you just shut him up?well maybe,just say:SO WHAT?FATS KEEP ME WARM!You're just jealous!..If not,dump him..
2007-03-03 02:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Angel_Love 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you do not appreciate being put down by him and you feel that he is insulting you. That he should stop the verbal abuse about your weight. Also tell him if he doesn't like it, to move on and you will do the same. Don't be afraid, stand up for yourself...because no one else will. Let me tell you something, this is an indication of things to come with him. Just think if you marry him...he will verbally abuse you every day of your life. Sorry dear, time to get rid of this guy and move on. Think more of yourself and regain some confidence. He has deflated your confidence and your self image and it is time to step up to the plate and dump him. You are a better person than him always remember that.
2007-03-03 10:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. He obviously doesn't respect you any more and he is using emotional abuse to gain control over you. Breaking up may be hard, since you said you've been together for 2 years, but it really sounds like it would be for the best. You'll be sad and feel lonely for a little while, but then you'll feel so much better. Don't be with a guy who messes with your self esteem.
2007-03-03 11:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by gerberdaisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your boyfriend is an incredible asshole with no sensitivity to your feelings. Or, perhaps he has issues with his weight now, or was heavy in the past and treats you bad because of it. I once knew a guy who was really heavy. This was before I knew him...anyway, he had that stomach surgery done,
and when I knew him he looked great. however, he had a lousy personality and was obscessed with looks, and anyone else that he associated with. He need constant reasurrance that he was sexy and looked good and went around bragging about his looks and how he was god's gift...the truth was, deep down, he was very insecure, and needed to build himself up because he didn't really like himself. So sad...anyway, what I would do is find a new boyfriend. He doesn't deserve you.
2007-03-03 10:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is making you feel fat and unattractive, and this behaviour can be considered abusive. It's hard to feel worthy of love when someone is going out of their way to make you feel worthless. You are better than the treatment you are receiving from this guy, and you are better than this relationship. Leave him before he damages your self-esteem any further.
2007-03-03 10:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by lil1_mg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find his weakness faults, like what ever he feels are not his best qualities. For instance, if he had a big nose or skinny legs, make fun of that! Teach him what it feels like. Give him right back what he dishes out to you, then after your sure you hurt is ego and feeling dump the sob for his brother,dad,best friend!!! That ought to do the trick!!!And you will feel a whole lot better! Do it at once!!
2007-03-03 10:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by sandra b 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dump the idiot hes only saying it 2 knock your confidence take no notice. im a bit over weight myself but my bloke would never say anything like that 2 me .if he did he wouldnt be able to walk for a week and he would have a very squeeky voice
2007-03-03 10:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by showmethemoneygolddigger 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time to let the fish go back to the water! He does not respect you or your feelings it will only get worse later after he controls everything you say or do! Get out now!
2007-03-03 10:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you have been with an emotionally abusive man for this long and have felt this pain for this long it is time to let him go he needs to accept you for who you are on the inside not what you look like on the outside don't let anybody hurt your self esteem
2007-03-03 10:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
weight changes.... if he only loves you when you are skinny then he is a materialistic, chauvinistic pig.... personality stays weight comes and goes. Get rid of him and find someone who loves you for you.
2007-03-03 11:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by nease174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋