Ok here is my argument for spanking read and tell me what you think?

Question

There is nothing scientific about this but looking at my coworkers and having this discussion often I have notice a trend. The coworkers who’s parents did not spank almost always had checkered past. They smoke or did smoke have tried drugs shop lifted drank cut school etc. Not everyone has done them or done them all but there seems to be a trend. All of my coworkers including myself who’s parents did spank never did any of the above because if there parents caught them they would be dead. Yes that is ruling by fear and not love but it worked. Who cares how you got your kid not to use drugs or drink under age as long as they were clean. Who cares if you kids were to scared to cut school they stayed in school The ones who’s parents did not spank did those things because if caught the worst that could happen is they were stuck at home

let me clarify i was not spanked past the age of 10 the fear of being caught and spanke kept me in line

Answer 1

I agree but I wouldn't say it is ruling out of fear and not love. I would say it is called tough love and it is the only way that will work. I was spanked as a child and I turned out just fine. There is also a difference in spanking and beating.

Answer 2

As a teacher, I have seen quite a few kids and many parents are quite candid about their disciplining methods. I can tell you that the 4 most behaviorally challenging students I've had had parents who were adamant about spanking. Theses 4 families went so far a to say that the problem with kids today was that parents don't spank (yet their spanked children were causing more problems than 5 other students combined). I would never make the generalization that all spanked kids OR all non-spanked kids turn out well. There is so much more to parenting than the decision to spank or not to spank.

Answer 3

I was spanked until age 12 or 13 and still drank, tried drugs etc. I think it has more to do with the environment you provide your child with. Also the lifestyle you live yourself the examples you set etc. My parents did drugs and drank so I did it to. I am providing my children with a drinking and drug free environment and I will be keeping a good eye on the people the hang out with. I hope that I can provide my children with the knowledge to make better choices than I and my family did. I also do spank just so you know. I beleive in spare the rod and spoil the child.

Answer 4

I totally agree. I think that spanking should be allowed. Kids need some kind of punishment that will keep them from doing wrong, not just a little talk and a 30 second time out. Parents are not abusing their children by spanking. I'm talking about a slap that would not tragically hurt the child, but one that would remind them of their place and make them think why they got it. Would you rather spank your child or have them go on drugs? Your choice.

Answer 5

I'd be willing to bet that the vast majority of criminals in prison were spanked.

I was spanked often as a child. I hated it. It did not seem fair or just to me.

I was a "good kid." I didn't NOT cut school, have NEVER even tried illegal drugs, did not have sex early or get "knocked up" etc. I went to college and have a BA in psychology (by the way, all of my developmental psych professors were AGAINST spanking) and a BS in microbiology. My husband and I live in a big house and we have an upper income family.

I am now FIRMLY AGAINST spanking in any form. I believe that EVERYONE, including children have a right to their bodily integrity and dignity. Spanking is VIOLENT and DISRESPECTFUL. Spanking NEVER teaches what it was intended to teach, even if it appears to stop the behaviour...it never addresses the root cause of the behaviour or helps the child work out alternative forms of behaviour. It short circuits the thinking process.

I have 2 children who have never been spanked. They are very "good" children. They are both challenging in lots of ways. Parenting w/o spanking is not easy, but it is worth it. My children are empathetic and independant minded. They can think for themselves, yet still be respectful to "authority."

Sources: AskDrSears.com, Mothering.com, Alfie Kohn's work including Unconditional Parenting, How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, How To Become the Parent You Want To Be, and Positive DIscipline.

By the way, the root of the word DISCIPLINE is the same as DISCIPLE. It meansto teach and guide...not punish.

As for the "rod" argument. Witness the Psalm 23 (I think) that says, "Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me." A rod was used by a shepard to GUIDE his sheep, not beat them. The rod of discipline is guidance, not violence. And though the Old Testament was admitadly brutal and focused on punishment, Jesus came to redeem us. The focus of the New Testament is on MERCY and FORGIVENESS. The NT counsels parents not to give their children cause for anger. That doesn't mean that you can never say something or make a decision your children don't like. It means that you should not be UNJUST. Spanking is ALWAYS unjust. WWJD applies to how you treat your child too. Think on how JEsus treated sinners...

Answer 6

I don't think that a spanking is a form of abuse as long as you are using your hand and contacting to the butt, using a paddles and belts or whatever else some people use is wrong... In the Bible it says that if you spare the rod ( spanking ) you spoil the child... and the word spoil means to ruin or let go bad.. So I think that if the situation calls for then a spanking is okay

Answer 7

There is a difference between spanking and beating; however, there is also a difference between spanking out of anger and spanking out of love. There are some parents who spank b/c they are angry at their child - give yourself two minutes to cool down. If you lash out in anger, your child will start relating physical violence with anger. You demeanor should be firm or disappointed, but not angry. I don't find anything wrong with an occasional spanking, provided timeouts and warnings haven't made a difference. Just make sure you talk to your child afterwards - spanking with no follow-up instruction or direction is pointless.

By the way, the most memorable spanking I ever got was from my mom. I stole some money from her drawer when I was seven or so and then lied about it. She found out and then told me that I was going to get a spanking for it in an hour. I spent the entire hour thinking (and worrying) about it - I remember the spanking didn't hurt, but my mom sure got her point across!! I don't remember any other lessons learned from my other spankings, but that one is clear as day in my head - I plan on using that technique on my child when we get to the point where a spanking is needed. :)

Answer 8

It's not always the case. My parents used to spank me and I'm a chain smoker. I had my first cigarette when i was 14 and my first drink some years before. I tried drugs and enjoyed them. So how come I'm not like the rest of you?
I often cut school during the boring lessons like games, textiles, cookery, PSE, general studies. They were pointless, why bother learning something you don't need?
I stole from shops whenever i had the chance as a kid and still do (last week i lifted a pair of wirecutters). It gave me a feeling of excitement, doing something that my parents would go crazy over if i was caught.
So your argument is totally wrong

Answer 9

I am not anti-spanking, but I don't think spanking is the only factor. Both my husband and I had parents who spanked on occasion. He went through a period of drug use but I never did. I don't think there's any one thing that can be claimed as the 'cure-all' method of child rearing.

Answer 10

I completely agree with you...I come from a family of 8 bros and sisters and most of us got spanked..the ones who did not are the ones also drinking,smoking,dropped out,shoplifted etc also. My husband and his sister are very well behaved to there mother,very respectful to mother and other relatives. they were spanked anytime they did something bad and they came out good kids,never drank,smoked both are college grads etc. I will also and im not prejudice by mentioning african american because my husband is black and as are all my friends. but african americans if u notice usually do get spanked as there parents disipline a lot and u will notice a lot of african american males are very much respectful and goal oriented then white..its a known fact and it just goes to show that spanking does do justice., I spank my two children when they dont behave like they should and so does daddy,they know right from wrong and are very very well behaved,,,,